- 6 years ago
This can be a bit complicated, sorry for the confusion
My grandmother adopted me from my bio mom and raised me untiI l I left her house at 24. (My mom wasn’t a teenager, but my sperm donor dad left her when she wouldn’t have an abortion) My grandparents decided that taking care of me would be the best thing while she got her life on track. Needless to say, I didn’t have a a “normal” childhood from the start. My grandmother is very religious, and ever since I was little I have noticed her exhibiting strange behaviors. Extreme mood swings, and she would emotionally & mentally abuse me over the years. Things just got worse after my grandfather died. I struggled so much to find myself and have my own identity, because she was an extremely clingy person. I’m not a psychologist, but I truly believe she has bipolar disorder. And she won’t admit to having a problem, so it’s being untreated. Police officers and other friends have come to this conclusion as well
My friends from school knew how she treated me, but my grandmother didn’t do anything that was illegal in the court’s eye. They knew I had to get away from her, and the sooner the better. Well that didn’t happen for a very long time, and since I moved here I’ve been estranged from her. I cut all my ties to her, financial and otherwise. I’ve lived with my real mom & her family, and now I live with my future fiance. My life couldn’t be better.
I was unprepared for when my grandmother decided to follow me out here to Idaho and harrass me & my co workers at my former job, and also the landlord at our apartment complex. We didn’t file a restraining order, but a visit from the police sent her a few steps back. For the past 5 years she has continued to call me non stop, spy on me through other family members, go to my fiance’s employer, and now she is on Facebook. She’s tried to add me, but I blocked her. Now she is adding my old friends from high school in the hope to “reconnect with her daughter”.
Some of these friends I haven’t talked to myself for ten years; we are just now begininng to get close again. They know how she treated me then, but I feel a little betrayed that they would add her at all, knowing this. My fiance says I should messsage them and try to tell them about her, but I don’t even know where to start. Should I just leave it alone, because they are adults and can add whoever they want? It just makes me feel like when you break up with a boyfriend and your friends, knowing how he treated you, still talk to him.
Thanks for the advice all. I really appreciate it