(Closed) FBIL Destination wedding 2 months before us

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

They should realize that your life doesn’t revolve around theirs either.  I wouldn’t go.  Maybe just your hubs could go?  I know it would  be a bummer to miss but you are never going to make it home and be productive for work on monday, if they are getting married on Sunday.  I’m sure they aren’t getting married at a sunrise ceremony?  

Maybe hubs can talk to them about a Saturday wedding?  My niece was married down there on a Friday….. everyone is on vacation so it really doesn’t matter the day.

Post # 4
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Citygirl8604:  Either you can afford to go, or you can’t.  I’m sure they are well aware that a lot of people aren’t going to be able to attend… it comes with the territory with destination weddings.  Don’t sweat it.  If you can’t go, so be it.  Hopefully your future husband can still make it.

Post # 5
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7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Do not attend, and tell him ASAP. Tell him the truth: it’s too expensive.

Destination weddings are expensive for guests. Anyone who expects guests to spend thousands to attend their wedding is being selfish. (I have nothing against a couple having a DW, so long as they don’t expect guests to attend).  Decline with a clear conscience. When you (and probably others) decline, that will be because he made is so expensive to attend.

Post # 6
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3302 posts
Sugar bee

Let your fiancé go by himself. They will understand.

Post # 8
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4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Could your FI stay with someone else, to save on costs?

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