(Closed) FBIL is very ill (verrrry long and sad)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I am so sorry. Sending you internet hugs and prayers for your family…

Post # 18
5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I’m so sorry for you and your family, this has to be a devastating time for you. I don’t really have an words than I agree with you that sometimes life is so unbelievably fair and that really, really sucks.

Post # 19
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is leaving me in tears as I know how it felt to witness something and being so helpless, i’m really sorry to hear you and your loved ones going through such a tough time.  I pray for his return to better health.  My baby brother went through a terrible medical condition and the doctor pretty much lost hope and still doesn’t know how he survived now..my parents opted out a last attempt of a complicated surgery (he was 6 months) and left it up to god and miraculously he survived (this was 25 years ago)..today, he is months from graduating with his medical degree and one test away from becoming a doctor himself.  Miracles happen and I pray for one to come your FBIL’s way. 

Post # 20
316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am so truly sorry, from the absolute bottom of my heart. Please, remember to stay strong, and positive, especially around Future Brother-In-Law. I’m sure he’s scared, it’s up to you and your Fiance to be his rock during this time, no matter how hard it is, and trust me, I know it’s hard. Keep your heads up, pray, find strength within you, and tell Future Brother-In-Law not to give up. Miracles happen, prayers get answered. Even when you think there is no hope, believe that there is. God bless you, your families, and your Future Brother-In-Law. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Post # 21
7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I’m so so sorry.  I wish I had some more helpful words.  His young son must be such a blessing, I hope they can spend more time together.  Please don’t give up hope.

Post # 22
741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wanted to add how sorry I am for you and your family. While no words can make this situation ok, just know you have people sending you good wishes.

My dad was chronically ill for a long time -he had a heart attack, treatment for hep C which led to an autoimmune disease, which he needed a steam cell transplant, and at the hospital he caught the swine flu. Statiscally, he should have died, but he is a fighter.

He used to be an emergency room doctor before the illnesses caught up with him, and he told me that he always emphasized the patient the best outcome to give them hope and make them want to fight, while preparing the family for the worst so it’s not a total shock. I wish you all the best in staying strong for your Future Brother-In-Law, and I hope he is able to pull through. 

Post # 23
2814 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow, I don’t even know what to say.  I am so sorry that you and your FI’s family are going through this.  I pray that he gets some kind of relief.  Big hugs to you.

Post # 25
4369 posts
Honey bee

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@KatyLovesJoey: Your Future Brother-In-Law will be in my thought. I’m happy to see he still has a fighting attitude. 

Post # 26
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

*HUGS* I agree^ sounds like he’s got a great attitude and that helps

Post # 27
9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m so sorry to hear this, what a tragedy. The family is in my thoughts, especially Future Brother-In-Law.

Post # 28
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry you and your FI’s family are going thru this. I really do know how you feel. On Feb 4th, everything in my life changed. My dad was diagnosed with Leukemia. They admitted him to the hospital immediatly and he spent about a month and a half in there. He got into remission, but had no insurance thru his job (and now no job since he’d missed so much time) so they wouldn’t even start looking for a bone marrow match until Medicaid was approved. By the time it was approved, his leukemia had returned. He then had to go back into the hospital for another few weeks for more chemo and got back into remission. In this time, we found out my uncle, his brother, was a perfect match for a transplant. The transplant was on Aug. 5th. He was doing great. My uncle’s cells had completly taken over his and we were sure he would be cured. I got engaged on Sept 15th. My dad was so happy, so excited, and doing so well when I went over to see him and tell him. A few weeks later, everything just went downhill and I don’t think we’ll ever know why. Sometimes it just happens is what we’re told. He went into the hospital on Nov. 4th after falling and being disoriented. He passed away Nov. 7th. Cancer, and diseases like this are such a rollercoaster. You get good news, and you think everything’s going to be ok, then the next day it’s bad news. I honestly feel like I haven’t had a good nights sleep since Feb. I spent the last 9 months scared to death I was going to get a phone call that he was gone. My only comfort is that towards the end, I know he was suffering, and I never wanted that. So I’m glad he is no longer in pain.  I think he was at peace with it at the end, but I know how much he wanted to be here to walk me down the aisle and meet his grandchildren someday. Just writing this is making me cry….so I know what you’re going thru. And for him to have to go thru this at 19 is even worse. I struggled a lot with what you said. The why is this happening to him?? When there are so many bad people out there, why is MY dad sick. He was a good person, a great dad. I have to believe there was a reason for all this, and there have been good things to come from this. My family has become extremely close. I spent more time with my dad these last 9 months than I had in years. I learned a lot about him I did not know. Because of his leukemia, I am now on the national bone marrow registry and have gotten at least 8 of my friends to join as well. Hopefully some day, one of us can save someone’s life who doesn’t have a family member to match. Thru this whole mess, I think I’ve discovered that a career in non-profit/charity is what I would like to do with my life, and it’s something I never would have thought of before.I raised about $10000 to help with medical bills and realized how much I’d love to plan charity events.

In the end, it sucks….and you have every right to break down, cry, scream, punch things, drink a bottle of wine all by yourself. I truly hope your Future Brother-In-Law gets better and he beats this. He  is young, is strong, obviously has great support, and is obviously a fighter. I will keep your family in my prayers. Feel free to message me if you ever need to talk, scream, cry, vent.

Post # 30
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Katy, I wanted to add that last year around this time, I was fearful of losing my sister. She has a mass in her brain and she started having seizures, etc… even after a successful treatment. She wasn’t doing well at all. Now she is making plans to advance her education overseas this spring, and wants to work as a nurse in South America. If you had asked me a year ago what I saw for her future, it wouldn’t have been anything like this. Modern medicine is an amazing thing and miracles do happen. Have faith.

Post # 31
2575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have no words.


I am so sorry.

Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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