Post # 1
I am just venting here ladies so please forgive me!
My Future Brother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law have both hinted that they should walk down the aisle together because they are married….
At first Future Brother-In-Law wanted us to make Future Sister-In-Law a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Problem is we both do not like each other and she is very open about it. I told him NO and he went to Future Mother-In-Law and tried to get her to pull the money strings only to find out she was not paying for the wedding. He then went for the emotional approach. I held my ground and I had people that were close to me in my Bridal Party.
Now Future Brother-In-Law want his wife to walk down the aisle with him…..NO! They have brought it up twice and I do not know how else to respond. Any ideas?
Post # 3
I don’t see the problem with it, to be honest. He can walk her down the aisle before the ceremony actually starts. They will be in your family for the rest of your lives, so isn’t it best to give into this one request?
Post # 4
@RVG1010: I think that’s ridiculous. Funny thing is that my best friend got married and even though her sister AND her sister’s Fiance were in the wedding, I ended up walking down with her sister’s Fiance because the bride wanted her sister to walk down with her husbands brother!
If your Future Sister-In-Law is not even blood related to your Fiance and you don’t like her AND she is open about not liking you, tell them to get over themselves!
Post # 5
…he want to Future Mother-In-Law and tried to get her to pull the money strings only to find out she was not paying for the wedding.
I couldn’t help but giggle on this…sorry! Sounds like your Future Brother-In-Law is pretty childish.
ok question: Is Future Brother-In-Law a GM/Best Man? If it is, have him walk down the aisle with BM/MOH!!! End of story. Honestly if you don’t have good relationship with Future Sister-In-Law, I don’t see why you need her to be in the “wedding party” so to speak.
Post # 6
I definitely wouldn’t cave to pressure to add her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
If you want to be gracious, he could walk her down the aisle before the mothers and the groom’s Dad are seated ( these are usually the last people seated before the processional.
He could then rejoin the wedding party to escort one of the BM’s.
Post # 7
I think the OP means he wants them to walk together during the processional. Which makes no sense as that is when the wedding party walks down the aisle. Tell him no and be done with it.
Post # 8
If she’s not in the bridal party, then before the wedding he can escort her to her seat and then get in line with whoever you have to walk down the aisle with him.
It’s your wedding, do what you want, don’t like that he is being a jerk about trying to get his way on a day that isn’t even about him. So childish!
I wont have that problem, all my people are walking down the aisle by themselves. We have no men in our wedding party besides my fiance haha
Post # 9
Don’t cave, it’s your wedding and no one should pressure you like this. Let him walk her down the aisle but have him do it before the actual Bridal Party enters. Even if he is not acting as a Groomsmen, have him do it for his wife: seat her & then re-join the rest of the Bridal Party.
It sounds like they are just concerned with how they will be perceived by the guests and/or she wants the attention. They’ve had their day, this is yours so have fun & do it your way.
Post # 10
@RVG1010: No. Stand your ground on this one too. She openly dislikes you, the Future Brother-In-Law sounds like a whiny cry-to-mama-when-he-can’t-get-his-way. I’m glad you stood your ground about the Future Sister-In-Law being a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Don’t let them win this, because you don’t want things to go that way, but also, people childish and ridiculous like that don’t deserve to be accomodated, IMO.
Post # 11
She doesn’t get to be featured in your wedding just because she happens to be married to your Future Brother-In-Law. My SIL (DH’s brothers wife) and I are not particularly close and she certainly didn’t get a special walk in our wedding. She was just a guest, just like your Future Sister-In-Law. I would flat out say NO one more time and if your Future Brother-In-Law still doesn’t get it then that’s his problem. Pigs would fly before I honored someone who I didn’t like in my wedding.
Post # 12
This is your wedding and you can arrange the bridal party in the way you want. Just because they are married doesnt mean they have to paired together to walk down the aisle, esp if you dont want Future Sister-In-Law as you Bridesmaid or Best Man. I say stand your ground.
Post # 13
I knew I could get some help from you all!
To clarify Future Sister-In-Law is not a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Future Brother-In-Law is the best man.
She talks crap about me all the time in front of Fiance and his family. Fiance sticks up for me and there have been some nasty fights between those two. She denies it all when I ask her if there is a problem or if she want to get something out of her chest.
She is from the Middle East and openly sides with terrorist (I am not joking). My Fiance is an Infantry soldier and this is a great insult to him and all of our military men and women. I refused to sing her papers for her Visa for this reason and I think she hates me more for this. I just don’t think she deserves to live here.
The rest of the Wedding Party will walk by themselves. They just want her to walk down the aisle.
Post # 14
@RVG1010: Wow. that’s a tense situation. I’d but curious to know how that has impacted the brother-brother relationship if your Fiance knows his brother’s wife openly supports terrorism.
Post # 15
@RVG1010: Tell her she can walk down the isle… when everyone is leaving! 🙂
She sounds like a piece of work, stick to your guns on this one… There is no reason for her to have a special walk down the isle.
Post # 16
She has made a big difference in their relationship. When I met my Fiance we (FI, Future Brother-In-Law and FFIL) would all go out together. Fiance parents are divorced and they were extremely close. I know they still have a strong bond but it is not the same.
When Future Sister-In-Law came into picture it all changed. They met online so they never really dated. She was good at first but them they started fighting after a week. She insults him and talks to him as if he is a little child. She has had a fight with everyone in the family including Fiance parents. Since he comes from a broken home he will not get a divorce. FBIL just puts up with it and pretends that everything is ok.
I think he wants her to walk with him so that people think that they are happy together and that Fiance and I get along with her.
Yeah that’s not happening! I just get mad that I told them two times and Future Mother-In-Law told me like a 50 times. They asked Fiance last night if she could walk when I was not there. Lucky for me Fiance told them he does not know and to talk to me about it. According to Future Brother-In-Law, Future Sister-In-Law will get lonely since he will be standing next to Fiance….. Really…..Future Sister-In-Law can’t sit by herself for 30 min?