(Closed) FBIL wants FSIL to walk down the aisle BUT she is not in BP.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t see the problem with it, to be honest.  He can walk her down the aisle before the ceremony actually starts.  They will be in your family for the rest of your lives, so isn’t it best to give into this one request?

Post # 4
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@RVG1010:  I think that’s ridiculous. Funny thing is that my best friend got married and even though her sister AND her sister’s Fiance were in the wedding, I ended up walking down with her sister’s Fiance because the bride wanted her sister to walk down with her husbands brother!

If your Future Sister-In-Law is not even blood related to your Fiance and you don’t like her AND she is open about not liking you, tell them to get over themselves!

Post # 5
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

…he want to Future Mother-In-Law and tried to get her to pull the money strings only to find out she was not paying for the wedding.

I couldn’t help but giggle on this…sorry!  Sounds like your Future Brother-In-Law is pretty childish.

ok question:  Is Future Brother-In-Law a GM/Best Man?  If it is, have him walk down the aisle with BM/MOH!!!  End of story.  Honestly if you don’t have good relationship with Future Sister-In-Law, I don’t see why you need her to be in the “wedding party” so to speak. 

Post # 6
46416 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I definitely wouldn’t cave to pressure to add her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

If you want to be gracious, he could walk her down the aisle before the mothers  and the groom’s Dad are seated ( these are usually the last people seated before the processional.

He could then rejoin the wedding party to escort one of the BM’s.

Post # 7
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think the OP means he wants them to walk together during the processional. Which makes no sense as that is when the wedding party walks down the aisle. Tell him no and be done with it. 

Post # 8
902 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If she’s not in the bridal party, then before the wedding he can escort her to her seat and then get in line with whoever you have to walk down the aisle with him.

It’s your wedding, do what you want, don’t like that he is being a jerk about trying to get his way on a day that isn’t even about him.  So childish!

I wont have that problem, all my people are walking down the aisle by themselves. We have no men in our wedding party besides my fiance haha

Post # 9
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t cave, it’s your wedding and no one should pressure you like this. Let him walk her down the aisle but have him do it before the actual Bridal Party enters. Even if he is not acting as a Groomsmen, have him do it for his wife: seat her & then re-join the rest of the Bridal Party.

It sounds like they are just concerned with how they will be perceived by the guests and/or she wants the attention. They’ve had their day, this is yours so have fun & do it your way.

Post # 10
2693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

@RVG1010:  No.  Stand your ground on this one too.  She openly dislikes you, the Future Brother-In-Law sounds like a whiny cry-to-mama-when-he-can’t-get-his-way.  I’m glad you stood your ground about the Future Sister-In-Law being a Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Don’t let them win this, because you don’t want things to go that way, but also, people childish and ridiculous like that don’t deserve to be accomodated, IMO.

Post # 11
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

She doesn’t get to be featured in your wedding just because she happens to be married to your Future Brother-In-Law. My SIL (DH’s brothers wife) and I are not particularly close and she certainly didn’t get a special walk in our wedding. She was just a guest, just like your Future Sister-In-Law. I would flat out say NO one more time and if your Future Brother-In-Law still doesn’t get it then that’s his problem. Pigs would fly before I honored someone who I didn’t like in my wedding. 

Post # 12
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

This is your wedding and you can arrange the bridal party in the way you want. Just because they are married doesnt mean they have to paired together to walk down the aisle, esp if you dont want Future Sister-In-Law as you Bridesmaid or Best Man. I say stand your ground.

Post # 14
2693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

@RVG1010:  Wow.  that’s a tense situation.  I’d but curious to know how that has impacted the brother-brother relationship if your Fiance knows his brother’s wife openly supports terrorism. 

Post # 15
2825 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@RVG1010:  Tell her she can walk down the isle… when everyone is leaving! 🙂

She sounds like a piece of work, stick to your guns on this one… There is no reason for her to have a special walk down the isle.

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