(Closed) FBIL wants to propose to GF at Christmas

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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@flapperphilosopher:  Sorry, OP, but I also think you’re worrying about nothing and coming off as a little selfish.  It’s your first time hosting Christmas, and that’s exciting for sure, but let them have their proposal moment if this is how he wants to ask.  I think it was sweet of him to ask your fi, since he really didn’t need to get permission.  It would be pretty unkind to shoot him down for no real reason, ya know?

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I will chime in again that I agree with others that this is ultimately your FI’s fight, not yours, if y’all decide to say no.

Post # 35
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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@flapperphilosopher:  I would defer back to Fiance like its a game of hot potato. 

 

Also, I dont see why it would take away from your lovely hosted Christmas. More joy, more love, more memories… it certainly wont make Christmas WORSE for anyone. 

A friend asked if itd be alright to announce a pregnancy at a holiday dinner party I hosted… and I was thrilled. Made the night that much more special.

Say yes. 

 

 

Post # 36
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

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@flapperphilosopher:  …seriously?  The food comes before a proposal???

Now you’re just being silly

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@flapperphilosopher:  Then just tell him to wait until after dinner otherwise no one will be able to focus on cooking and you’ll all starve.  That is not an unreasonable request and probably part of why he asked for permission.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

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@flapperphilosopher:  Its not like it is going to take a long time for him to propose. A round of hugs and congrats all around, and then you will have people to help you. I’m sure the newly affianced couple will want some alone time after to talk or something.

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@flapperphilosopher:  really? you’re worried about when it would happen and that getting in the way of your scheduled dinner? I doubt it’s going to take more than a few minutes of time, not at all enough time to throw things off so much that it would ruin anything you have planned. This is just sounding worse and worse. It’s an inconvenience? really? wow.

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

a proposal will take…what, 5 min tops?  this is just getting silly, honestly.

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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@flapperphilosopher:  It’s likely going to be during present opening time, but you can ask when he plans to do it. I really don’t think this is going to destory your Christmas unless YOU LET IT.

 

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Are you stressed about hosting everyone for the holidays? Or do you really crave the attention that much?

Either way, I think you need to figure out your feelings about this. You always have a comeback on why you don’t want to have it in your home, but they sound kind of silly.

Proposal or not, I hope your holidays are full of love and happiness 🙂

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

What better way for people to remember what an awesome Christmas it was than the joy of the proposal at your house? I’m sure you’ll have great food and whatnot, too.

You know, I think it’s like the wedding – you care about the food and details and timing because you’re hosting. That’s understandable. But what people remember is the warmth and togetherness and happiness.

Say yes. It’ll be great.

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

OP, just let it go. Let him propose and be happy. Everything will work out. You are worrying way too much about this. Like others have said, you’re being silly.

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

After reading your reasons for being uncomfortable about this I still have to say I just wouldn’t feel the same way. Then again, I’ve always loved being a part of things like this. I’d feel very excited and honored.

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