- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
I will chime in again that I agree with others that this is ultimately your FI’s fight, not yours, if y’all decide to say no.
Like I said, I would go with it if it is what Fiance wanted because it is his family matter and I don’t even want to be involved at all. He put me in the middle and I’m annoyed by that.
Also, I’m going to need many hands on deck when people first arrive (FI, my mom, my sister, and Future Mother-In-Law have all agreed to help with the last minute stuff). So if it does happen, it can’t happen when they first get there. It just can’t. So now I’m in a position where I have to say “Sure Future Brother-In-Law propose away but you have to do it at X time in the night otherwise dinner will be a disaster.” That or I am going to need him to tell me exactly when so I can plan food prep and dinner around it. It’s just an inconvenience unless it happens after dinner, and I don’t want to tell him WHEN he can do it but I will have to.
Also, I dont see why it would take away from your lovely hosted Christmas. More joy, more love, more memories… it certainly wont make Christmas WORSE for anyone.
A friend asked if itd be alright to announce a pregnancy at a holiday dinner party I hosted… and I was thrilled. Made the night that much more special.
a proposal will take…what, 5 min tops? this is just getting silly, honestly.
Are you stressed about hosting everyone for the holidays? Or do you really crave the attention that much?
Either way, I think you need to figure out your feelings about this. You always have a comeback on why you don’t want to have it in your home, but they sound kind of silly.
Proposal or not, I hope your holidays are full of love and happiness 🙂
What better way for people to remember what an awesome Christmas it was than the joy of the proposal at your house? I’m sure you’ll have great food and whatnot, too.
You know, I think it’s like the wedding – you care about the food and details and timing because you’re hosting. That’s understandable. But what people remember is the warmth and togetherness and happiness.
Say yes. It’ll be great.
OP, just let it go. Let him propose and be happy. Everything will work out. You are worrying way too much about this. Like others have said, you’re being silly.
After reading your reasons for being uncomfortable about this I still have to say I just wouldn’t feel the same way. Then again, I’ve always loved being a part of things like this. I’d feel very excited and honored.
How is it silly that I need help from members of his family and mine when the spotlight should be on their proposal for a decent chunk of time? If he wants to do it in front of his family, he will want his family’s attention. Then after the proposal everyone chats and congratulates and all the fun stuff that happens after. So then what, I’m alone in the kitchen unable to be part of it and trying to do the work of four people? That’s kind of not fair to me. I have 12 people to cook for. I’ve never cooked for this many people in my entire life and I need help. How is that hard to understand?
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