(Closed) FBIL’s gf has done it again!!:

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would block her from Facebook message.  While you’re having the conversation, I’d say something sassy back, like “well if you wear white, I’m kicking you out!” 

Post # 4
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Shes probably enviious with all the attention and wedding planniing that is directed at you. Id let it go.

Post # 7
2254 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldn’t share wedding details with her from now on. Clearly she is trying to undermine you to deal with her jealousy issues whether it is deliberate or not. I have a Future Sister-In-Law (FBIL’s wife) who is exactly the same. Every time, I mentioned any aspect to my wedding, the wife would make disparaging remarks like “that’s so expensive” and “omg ours was way cheaper, and it came out just fine.” It irritated me for a long time too esp since she would make these comments in front of Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law, but then I learned she can’t make any remarks if she has no idea what’s going on. When she asks, I just say Fiance and I are sorting it out.

Post # 9
162 posts
Blushing bee

She’s jealous because you’re getting married and she isn’t, despite the fact that she apparently has a child and a long term relationship with your Future Brother-In-Law. She obviously wants to get married herself and Future Brother-In-Law won’t marry her.

In a way I’d feel a little sorry for her and try to be understanding, but don’t let her walk all over you – it’s YOUR wedding so YOU call the shots and say who wears what!

Post # 10
3135 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Stop talking wedding with her- period. Don’t respond to any messages about it & when she asks  tell her you’re wedding-ed out. 

Post # 11
13014 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Um, I guess I don’t get what the big deal is.  She sounds like she’s excited to share your wedding day with you and wants everything to look perfect.  It even sounds like she was trying to compliment you in her original message.  Maybe the whole message was a bit immature, but… I don’t really see how it’s a big deal at all.  Just let it go. If it bothers you that much, then don’t talk weddings with her anymore. 

Post # 12
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@cherryblossomlove:  my FBIL’s gf is just as jealous as yours, but in a completely opposite way!  She would never in a million years ask me anything about my wedding, and I don’t really tell her anything.

She never really liked me and always seemed resentful and condescending towards me, then we got engaged when we’ve been dating less time than her and Future Brother-In-Law (we’re a few years older) and she downright hated me – but still wanted to be a bridesmaid after she was a total ass when we got engaged.

She pretty much hates me since she found out she wouldn’t be in the wedding party, when she apparently expected to.  We steer clear of each other as much as possible, try to keep her as uninformed as possible.

Post # 13
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m confused… does that mean she’s wearing a short bridal gown?


I remember you talking about her from a previous thread. She sounds like a piece of work.

Post # 16
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@cherryblossomlove:  yeah, I think you need to let this go.  

You’ve got your dress, your Fiance likes your winter theme, your Maid/Matron of Honor loves her dress and you two are getting along again, your date is set, you’ve decided on blue shoes . . . . all good!! 

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