(Closed) Fear of "About time!"

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Get used to it because people will say it. Don’t let it get to you….it is just something people say when you take any longer than about a year to get engaged.

We waited six years and yeah we got the comments. We made a joke about it and used the idea as a prop at our wedding. Just laugh it off.

Post # 4
Member
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think “It’s about time!” is almost always said good-naturedly and in sort of a congratulatory fashion.

My family said it to me when we got engaged. They also said it to me when I graduated. Har har.

It’s just a thing people say when they think they’re being funny 😛

Post # 6
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1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Fiance and I got that ALL the time – at first it was annoying, but then I just started ignoring it – people say dumb things. I mean, yeah, we were together for almost five years by the time we got engaged – but we started dating when we were 20! If we waiting a “normal” 1 yr- 18 months, people would have been screaming at us that we were too young.

Post # 7
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3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I completely know where you’re coming from. I know we’re going to get it, too (6 years, so far). We get so many When? questions from not just family, but coworkers and friends too. It’s irritating since I have no control over it. I’m not looking forward to it because it’s going to be annoying, but it’s something that I’ll just have to get over.

Post # 8
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1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@StL.Ashley:  Exactly! We’ve been together 9 years but we started dating freshman year of HS. There was no way I was even ready for thinking about marriage until recently. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Post # 9
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5148 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Haha, that’s pretty much ALL we got for comments. We were together 7 years before getting engaged, living together for 5 of those years.

Post # 10
Member
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah I don’t think there is any way to win the “just right” award.  We got engaged about 16mos into our relationship and got the “waaaay too soon” responses, whereas my BFF in college got the exact opposite.  

Post # 11
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9203 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Ha.  Yeah.  We started dating 12 years ago just after high school, fell madly in love, forced ourselves to take some time apart while in college on opposite coasts, and have been back together for the past 10 years.  We just got engaged with what was perfect timing for us, having never really needed the “married” label but starting to think about a family, etc.  We got the “about time” thing ALLLL the time.  We just laughed and said that “Actually it’s the perfect time!”  I don’t want people to think I was sitting around twiddling my thumbs for the past 10 years, but I think my happy and carefree reaction to that comment makes it clear.  People don’t mean any harm, so it’s best not to take it that way.

Post # 12
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We were together 6 years, living together for 5, so i got ALOT of that!  If I was expecting a person to say it, I would kind of preface it with, I know this might seem like rushing into things, but we got engaged! LOL

Post # 13
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1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m a little worried about that, It’s been 5 years, and will probably be a little while to go. I’ll do my best to not let it bug me too much!

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