Post # 1
One of my coworkers got engaged yesterday, and was excitedly showing off her ring and telling her story at work today. She and her fiance have been together for 8ish years, but I was still completely shocked and really happy for her. Another coworker made a comment of “It’s about time!”, which I’m sure was not meant in a mean-hearted way… but still!
I realized that “about time!” is something I fear to both think myself and have other people say about me and my SO. We have been together for 3 years, which is still a pretty average amount of time… but the more time that passes the greater the fear gets (we are both 27, living together, and both earning a good living)…
Has anyone else gotten this comment before? I did not personally receive it, but feel terrible for my coworker 🙁
Post # 3
Get used to it because people will say it. Don’t let it get to you….it is just something people say when you take any longer than about a year to get engaged.
We waited six years and yeah we got the comments. We made a joke about it and used the idea as a prop at our wedding. Just laugh it off.
Post # 4
I think “It’s about time!” is almost always said good-naturedly and in sort of a congratulatory fashion.
My family said it to me when we got engaged. They also said it to me when I graduated. Har har.
It’s just a thing people say when they think they’re being funny 😛
Post # 5
@Treejewel17 – Wow, good for you and your husband for having such a good sense of humor! I’m usually not so easily offended, but something about my coworker’s comment really made me sad
I’m sure it usually is meant in a good-natured congratulatory way, but it still smacks of judgement, and almost make me as crazy as the “Why aren’t you married yet?” question.
Oh well. Guess I better learn to control my reactions 🙂
Post # 6
Fiance and I got that ALL the time – at first it was annoying, but then I just started ignoring it – people say dumb things. I mean, yeah, we were together for almost five years by the time we got engaged – but we started dating when we were 20! If we waiting a “normal” 1 yr- 18 months, people would have been screaming at us that we were too young.
Post # 7
I completely know where you’re coming from. I know we’re going to get it, too (6 years, so far). We get so many When? questions from not just family, but coworkers and friends too. It’s irritating since I have no control over it. I’m not looking forward to it because it’s going to be annoying, but it’s something that I’ll just have to get over.
Post # 8
@StL.Ashley: Exactly! We’ve been together 9 years but we started dating freshman year of HS. There was no way I was even ready for thinking about marriage until recently. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
Post # 9
Haha, that’s pretty much ALL we got for comments. We were together 7 years before getting engaged, living together for 5 of those years.
Post # 10
Yeah I don’t think there is any way to win the “just right” award. We got engaged about 16mos into our relationship and got the “waaaay too soon” responses, whereas my BFF in college got the exact opposite.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Ha. Yeah. We started dating 12 years ago just after high school, fell madly in love, forced ourselves to take some time apart while in college on opposite coasts, and have been back together for the past 10 years. We just got engaged with what was perfect timing for us, having never really needed the “married” label but starting to think about a family, etc. We got the “about time” thing ALLLL the time. We just laughed and said that “Actually it’s the perfect time!” I don’t want people to think I was sitting around twiddling my thumbs for the past 10 years, but I think my happy and carefree reaction to that comment makes it clear. People don’t mean any harm, so it’s best not to take it that way.
Post # 12
We were together 6 years, living together for 5, so i got ALOT of that! If I was expecting a person to say it, I would kind of preface it with, I know this might seem like rushing into things, but we got engaged! LOL
Post # 13
I’m a little worried about that, It’s been 5 years, and will probably be a little while to go. I’ll do my best to not let it bug me too much!