(Closed) fears

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@scarletx:  I think that with the problems you stated, you should probably talk to a professional, it might help you to deal with these issues before you’re married.

Post # 4
2924 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@scarletx:  ((Hugs)) I think couples therapy would be so beneficial and is a great way for all couples to learn about better communication. With your anxiety and his ADHD, having a professional who fully understands both sets of issues as a sort of mediator is extra helpful. It’s really positive that your Fiance is open to the therapy, and I think it’s indicative of a strong relationship that the two of you can talk things through like you have. The therapist will be able to give the both of you a deeper understanding of how to communicate with each other and tools for coping when issues come up.


Yes, it’s normal to be scared. My Fiance likes to say that being afraid means you know how hight the stakes are. However, don’t let the fear control you. I know it’s easier said than done, but try to push the fear away. Your Fiance sounds like he loves you so much and that he is committed to the relationship. Admitting to issues is ALWAYS better earlier than later because it’s better to work through things from the beginning rather than having problems build up. 

Post # 5
1359 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Hugs 🙂 I dont know if I have ADHD but I think I do. I have the same thing happen as your Fiance does, talk really fast and loud and it sometimes drives my Fiance and parents insane. They flat out tell me, “we cant understand you, please speak slower” and it helps. If you remind him of it, he will become conscious of it and try to modulate. 

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