Post # 1
Since no one started it yet I’m throwing up the Feb 2012 thread!
Valentines Day month. Hold onto your sanity ladies!
If you all are familiar w/Mr. Bee’s Plan, this thread is for those who find waiting’s driving them crazy, and are up for making a pact to stick to Mr. Bee’s plan.
Here is an outline of Mr. Bee’s Plan:
And here’s the thread where the Plan Pact started:
Every week, there’s a check-in, usually Wed. or Thursday, but whichever day you feel like posting something, feel free to post! We’ll post our progress, failures, feelings, what have you, but ultimately the goal is to be happy and not let waiting get the best of us. Looking forward to hearing from you ladies, and thank you to the ladies who joined in on the last plan pact!
Post # 3
I’ll go first!
I had a good week. The subject of marriage/engagement has not come up since the last time he made big promises for this year.
I’m still a little bothered that if he thinks we are getting married this summer, why hasn’t he proposed? I’m aware he is getting some money this month, and we have a vacation coming up in March and an anniversary in Mary, so I’m going to not mention anything wedding related until at least Summer to give him some time.
I’ve been working out at the gym ALOT, and I feel great! I have some fun Girl’s Nights coming up within the next 2 weeks, so I feel good that my calendar is filling up. I’m gonna keep up the exercise, continue keeping the wedding talk to a minimum, and focus on myself!
Post # 4
UM I’m not doing so great but we have not had bad talks about it. Most recently, SO”s car was wrongfully towed out of our apt’s parking lot yesterday evening so yesterday after he got it back he said we’re moving. He knows I’m not crazy about the idea of getting an apt elsewhere with him that I could not afford on my own. I hate the uncertainty and (currenlty, potentially) unfulfilled promises of the future. ARGH.
In the meantime, I’ve started doing Insanity and he gives me 2 wks to quit it. He did P90X last year and barely made it through. I’m determined to prove him wrong!! and it occupies 60 days.
Post # 5
If we need to update daily is that allowed?
I haven’t mentioned anything since Sunday. Yay!
But last night I wanted to explode SO BAD. He keeps telling me I need to chill out and just trust that he’s got in under control.
I really hope he does…
Post # 6
I’ve done ok the last week… but honestly i’m so tired of waiting. it doesn’t even make me happy to think about getting engaged at this point. waiting has completely ruined the excitement for me.
I don’t know what to do right now.
Post # 7
I don’t know if this counts, but last night SO and I were talking on the phone and he said “Soon we’ll be sleeping in the same bed” and I said “Soon?” and he said “Yeah, when we have money” I got quiet, and didn’t press the issue. Sigh. But in other news the diet is going well, I’ve lost half a pound this week lol. (every little bit counts!) I’ve just gotta work on the exercise part now lol
Post # 8
Oh my god im trying! In the past week 3 people have told him that he needs to marry me. One of his co-workers. A complete stranger at the club (the wife of a coworker at a different branch of the company at a work party thing), and last night it was his friends 86 year old Italian mother. She thinks of my bf as one of her own sons now and met me for the first time last night. She’s been hounding the Boy to bring me by so she can meet me. (I got the seal of approval, yay!). And she’s telling the Boy “4 years? Too long! Look at her, she a good girl. So nice. Such a nice girl. You marry her! You tell me you love her so You marry her now. Come, eat another cookie.” Score one for the italians! His responce? “someday. I’ll marry her someday.” arrrrrg, that had better be someday SOON boyo, you’re on borrowed time here!
Aaand apperantly I have a V-day surprise coming that he let slip. He was all shifty andfreaked out that he accidentally let slip I had a surprise coming that he shut me up really fast so I would stop asking questions. But *siiiiiiiiigh* we are not getting engaged. I took out rent the other day and saw his bank balance. There was no buying of a ring. And if there was buying of a ring, what the hell ring? Cause it sure as hell won’t be the one I picked. 🙁
And if it’s a third NON-engagement diamond ring I’ll CHOKE him to death with it. I’m all for diamond rings but the next ring he gets me needs to be my engagement ring. Maybe it’s a new computer moniter, that would be cool.
Post # 9
@MrsGolden2Bee: As a coworker said I should’ve done with my “non-promise ring” that’s pretty much a promise ring- throw it back and say “NOT GOOD ENOUGH!” Just kidding! I’d never do that…
Confession for the day I sent SO a pic of a candy heart that said “Marry me?” He sent back that “you’re not allowed to ask that” le sigh….then you do it!!!
Post # 10
Alrighty so it’s Thursday so I guess it’s time for my update. I posted a few days ago that I was failing because I’m still talking about engagement/marriage, but I think I was being a little hard on myself. I DID mention it when I was feeling insecure, but it didn’t lead to a fight or anything, and things have been good since then. Aside from my moment of uncertainty and insecurity, this week has actually been good. Well at least the second half of it has. I’ve continued to work out and have my bff night. And I haven’t said anything engagement/marriage related since the weekend. (sooo long for me haha). Anyway, something must be working because last night my SO said to me “I’ve been feeling more in love and into you lately.” I mean I know he loved me before, but I think he’s just missed me more lately because I have been more busy or something. I’ll try to keep this up. My best friend and I are trying to keep our promise to meet up for dinner or something at least once a week. And I am going to promise to myself to try harder not to talk about getting engaged.
So basically, spending time with friends, I get an A; working out… mmm…. a B; not talking about engagement/marriage C+ or B-
I probably need to find some other kind of hobby for myself to do on my own. It’s just that I am addicted to my SO and don’t like to spend THAT much time away from him. LOL lame I know… but i’m in LOVE! haha
Post # 11
So for me, I have good news – he said the proposal’s coming in a month or two, and and we decided on getting married this fall! It really sounds like it’s happening. So in the meantime, I want to chill out and focus on work, getting in shape, all that good stuff.
@juneebee: That’s wonderful that he feels that way, and that you’re taking care of yourself!
@MrsGolden2Bee: that lady sounds awesome! “MARRY HER, MARRY HER…have a cookie”. lol
@annasaf83: sounds good!
@alwaysamaid: I think a lot of us waiting bees feel that way at some point.
@missjuli: Sure, daily updates are allowed! Any every small thing that improves your quality of life while waiting’s a victory.
@jpalm13: Yeah, uncertainty sucks.
@butterflylove: all that sounds good!
Post # 12
the Boyfriend or Best Friend and I had a really nice date night out last week, and I kept thinking “is this the night?” and it wasn’t.
and since then i’ve sort of given up I guess. I’m just the long-term girlfriend at this point, and I’m trying to enjoy the relationship for what it is and be happy.
not to say I don’t want to get engaged, but I’m tired of waiting for it to come and being disappointed and ruining every night out. I love him and he loves me, and I think that just has to be enough…
Post # 13
@alwaysamaid: I’m right there with you girl, I’ve been up and down so many times on the waiting ‘rollercoaster’ that the ride is officially making me sick. SO and I are never going to get engaged and I just have to be okay with that, he’s a wonderful boyfriend other than the fact that he’s never going to be anything more than my boyfriend. Unfortunately being ‘okay’ only lasts until SO brings up rings and engagement again, and then it starts the cycle of disappointment all over again
Ive been very good on Mr. Bee’s plan. For almost 3 months I didn’t bring up engagement, I didn’t nag, I was very low key and focused on doing my own thing. It’s been great! But all the work I do keeping my mind of engagement gets shot to shit because SO won’t stop dangling it in front of my face. After what happened this past week my tolerance is absolutely ZERO and the next time he brings up engagement (unless it’s a proposal) he is going to get a HUGE wake-up call. I will not be nice, it will not be pretty.
Post # 14
Bleh, this week has been much harder. We’ve been out seeing others more, which I think played a big role. Had to introduce myself as his girlfriend again and I’m kinda tired of that! So today I just brought up the ring again jokingly, but at some point after continuing the joke he was like “ok…enough of that talk for now”. I’m having a really bad few waiting days! Argh I really hope it gets better… The worst thing is that I know for sure it’s not going to happen until after I graduate, and probably in the fall or winter or even next year and that’s just driving me insane!!! LOL I know I should be more patient but for some reason I’m just having a really hard time with it right now. We also had a fight a few nights ago, he was really upset and let it simmer while I was asking “what’s wrong?” and he kept saying “nothing” but I knew he was upset… so at some point he blew up and he was pretty nasty to me so I got upset… He apologized a lot after that, but I just want him to commit already…
Post # 15
Woo hoooo good news!
Turns out the gods must be on a mission for me and it is seriously paying off. This past Saturday night the Boy and I were at a going away party for one of our friends. A lot of his graduating class was there and I had had a lots of friends in that class so it was nice to reconnect with them. So I was catching up with this girl J. And had mentioned that the Boy and I had been together almost 4 years. Well she was really annoyed that the Boy hadn’t proposed yet so later in the night when I wasn’t around she went up to him and asked why the hell he hadn’t put a ring on it.
Now this was the fourth or 5th person to ask him in 2 weeks (sucker, now he knows how I feel!) so apperantly he burst out saying,” Not you too! I’m WORKING ON IT!”
Wooooooo!!!! This was the very first I’ve heard that he’s actually DOING something about it. He gave me a timeline of a year and a half about a month and a half ago. And was pretty sure he would wipe it completely out of his mind until the last minute. But YAAY he’s FINALLY actively thinking about it and is working towards it. I’m not a waiting bee where the guy HAS the ring and I’m waiting for him to just hand it over. Im a waiting bee like my guy needed to snap out of it and not give me any more of this back and forth “marriage some day,be with you forever, oh now I don’t believe in marriage but I love you crap.” Though he did admit that that was just him being a stubborn ass. *eyeroll*
So I’m very excited and feel much calmer. I was happy with finally getting a deadline but it was such a long one that I was worried he might just be stringing things out. I am breathing so much better knowing that he has something up his sleeve even if he DOES take the next year and a half.
So this is me sending out a cosmic thank you to everyone that kept asking and frustrating the boy into blurting out what he was really doing instead of his usual evasive answers. *HI5!*
Post # 16
Well I had my first Cake Decorating Class yesterday, made a yummy and pretty little cake which SO, my parents and I ate while watching the Super Bowl. I’m so excited for my next 4 classes!
I haven’t brought up anything about engagements or weddings with SO. But While he was over to watch the game he was on my facebook account and chatted with my cousin and when I looked over the conversation I saw that he mentioned the ring to her, but it doesn’t seem that he has purchased it yet.
This week should be a normal week, I think SO and I are going to take a short road trip this weekend, he mentioned going to a town about 2 hours away. I love road trips, so I can’t wait 🙂 I hope everyone has a good week!