- 5 years ago
I already posted up two topics on weddingbee regarding the issues I’ve been dealing with the bride and a particular bridesmaid:
The bachelorette party happened last weekend. There is one particular bridesmaid that has been difficult to handle. The entire weekend, all she cared was what she wanted to do and flirt with any guy in sight when the bride wanted this to be a girls bonding weekend. The bride started venting to me and making comments about this bridesmaid that made me feel uncomfortable. I have been trying to not further talk about this bridesmaid after some advice from my last post. It also didn’t help that this bridesmaid still owed me money for her share at the condo we’re staying at.
The last night we stayed at the condo, she runs into the screen door that led to the balcony and damaged it badly. I am not one to get upset quickly but not only did she not apologize, she was cracking jokes and telling me to not be so uptight since it wasn’t a big deal and that the door shouldn’t cost much. Of course I got upset since she still owed me money AND I was at risk for losing my deposit.
The girls decided to go out and I chose to stay and clean since I did not want to ruin the night. When they came back I was already in bed. The bride and I share a room so she asked me if I was ok. I tried to not discuss it but eventually I caved in and told her how rude that bridesmaid was the entire weekend. I couldn’t believe when the bride was trying to defend the bridesmaid by saying “I’m sure she really didn’t mean it, you need to put that behind you” when she was complaining and saying some harsh comments about her the entire weekend. I probably should have not said this to the bride but I told her I don’t understand why you’re defending this person when you has always complain to me about how unreliable and rude she is.
At this point I’m just fed up with the drama, specifically the bride and that bridesmaid. I guess this is a 2 part question: I refuse to hear the bride vent to me about that bridesmaid ever again since I don’t feel sorry that the bride is putting up with her. Is that wrong for me to feel like that? Also, I did lose half of my deposit since the door was not fixable. I was going to try to coordinate planning the bridal shower but I do not want a repeat expericence of planning the bachelorette. Would it be out of line for me to step down from planning the bridal shower due to that plus I’m most likely am not going to get my money back from that bridesmaid?