- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
Funny how “FMIL” and “FML” look so similar!
The whole mother-daughter relationship thing is not gonna happen, and I’m fine with that…
I’m done trying to figure out my Future Mother-In-Law. She is not super close with my Fiance (only child), nor does she have any family of her own. When Fiance and I started getting serious, my mom and I (who are very close) began incorporating her in outings, dinners, family stuff, etc. She seemed grateful b/c in the past often said she was envious of the relationship my mom and I had. She has one son; it’s different.
Lately (as in the past year or so), it’s been weird. I mean, she’s always been a bit bizarre but she seems very fixated on Fiance when it comes to family gatherings. For instance, will hold a conversation with JUST HIM while we’re all out at dinner, or if my mom and I are telling a story about something, i.e. the time we went to the beach when I was a child, instead of listening she has to compete and say, “Well when Fiance was little, I took him to so and so every year, remember that, FI? Remember when we did that?” It’s just odd and unnatural.
Besides a few notable things she’s done and said lately that I haven’t been able to shake, this passed week just did it for me. Her birthday was last Thursday, so I called and had to leave a message. I said on the message to call me back whenever and we could plan something, take her out or whatever. Also, my mom sent her a birthday card.
Needless to say, she never called. Not only did she not call (me or my mom) but called Fiance and said, “burlapnlace left me a message and her mom sent a card, I have to call them.” She called Fiance at least 2 more times since then and still, neither of us.
So now this weekend is Mother’s Day. I decided to say “f**k it!” and do something I WANT to do with my mom instead of a forced, awkward dinner with all of us. I’m done. I’m tired of it! I’ll send Fiance with a gift and a birthday and mothers day card, and that’ll be it.
Make me feel like a not-so-horrible person about this! Who else has experienced distance and rudeness from their in-laws? Please, feel free to share!!!!!