Post # 1
Hi bees, thought i would write this for a moan really.
im getting married in june this year but feel that ever since we announced our intention to marry ive had alot of negativity from people. opinions over dress choice (im wearing red) to Maid/Matron of Honor not wanting to pay too much for her dress or her daughters, so ive had to rethink my choices and try to buy her something on ebay, to her also dictating what theme i have on my hen do because she doesnt like my idea to my parents now saying it costs too much to hire a suit so will buy one from the local store, which doesnt match what my groom wants. i darent tell him cos he will be really mad. and so on and so on!
we have both been married before so maybe this has something to do with it, and im too soft and dont want to upset anyone so just go with it but im really fed up of it all and feel like just going away now just the two of us and b****r the lot of em?!
i dont want to turn into a bridezilla but feel like screaming!!!! is this common when arranging weddings? isnt it suppose to be one of the best and memorable times of your life? i wish i could strike a line through the lot im so stressed,
anyone else feel the same???
p;s sorry for the rant!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I think it depends on your family and you. My mom has been super involved and supportive, but it’s also stressing my Fiance out (my Fiance hates shopping and trying on clothes with a passion and my mom has been adamant about shopping with my FI). We’ve had family members who want nothing to do with the wedding and have said some really insulting things. We’ve had family members say they’re 100% supportive and act that way. I’ve also done most of the planning so far with only my mom and my Fiance though. I haven’t really involved other family or anyone in the wedding party, and probably won’t for the most part except for wedding attire (which we’re paying for so they don’t get a say anyway). I figure we’re paying for the majority of it (with help from my mom and her husband), so if they want to be involved they can be. Otherwise we’re doing what we want with my mom’s input only for the most part since she’s footing half the bill.
I’m not sure if it has to do with getting everyone involved in your wedding, but as a late bride (in my 30s) and non-traditional (same-gender marriage), I guess I’m used to being open for other people to come to, but not involving them in my life.
Anyway, I guess what I’m saying is it’s your wedding, do what you want. If other people are giving you a hassle, remind them it’s your wedding and stop involving them if they can’t be supportive of YOUR wedding (and let them know that). 🙂
Post # 4
@bellagio: thanks for the reply, i know your right what your saying and i think im gonna have to have a long think about how im gonna handle some things that are happening around me. there is really only me and mum and hubby to be arranging things but everyone else seems to have an opinion, Maid/Matron of Honor is doing my head in!! im gonna have to toughen up me thinks and not let them get to me, many thanks!