(Closed) FED UP!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

i think it is important to remember that, though this is a big day for you, it is not a big day for everyone else.  i think its good to keep Bridesmaid or Best Man expectations to the minimum.  its great that a few have taken an active interest, but dont be offended that all have not.

i really dont think its a big deal if all the BMs cant make it to try on dresses.  sure, you’d like this to be a sentimental day of bonding.  but realistically, people have other events that take priority over dress shopping, especially if babysitters are involved.

i think you should put this out of your mind,  dont drive 45 minutes to pick anyone up.  dont call anyone else to see if they are coming.  youve set a date and time.  everyone that can make it will be there and you guys will have a wonderful time.  for the ladies that cannot, they will just purchase their dresses without all on the fanfare.  it doesnt make them selfish or uncaring and it doesnt make you a zilla to want everyone there.  just realize that wants and needs are different things and enjoy the day.

hope you guys find beautiful dresses!

Post # 4
1518 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would pick out whatever dresses you want and then give the girls a couple weeks to go the the store and get fitted. This way they can do it on their own time and you don’t have to deal with them and their schedules! 

Post # 5
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Relax, it’s really not a big deal if they are there.  They have to wear the dress you choose so if they would rather not be involved in the process and be forced to wear what you pick, then let them be.  There is no reason you need to know in advance if they will be there.  If they show up and try some things on, great.  If they don’t, the girls that are there will try them on and you’ll pick something.  I picked my bridesmaids dresses out BY MYSELF and then each of the girls went to the shop nearest to her to get fitted and pick out which dress they wanted from the options they were given.  Once everyone had their info, my Maid/Matron of Honor put in one order at the shop closest to her.  Easy peasy.

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