Post # 1
I don’t have a problem inviting the pastor to eat w/ us, he’s not a good friend, just a pastor that has the church that my hubby sometimes goes to. I think it’ll be a little awkward having him there for the dinner, because the grooms side of the family isn’t all that well mannered w/ their mouths. So I guess what I’m asking is…is it rude to not invite him to stay and have dinner or should I most certainly offer? I know also just because I offer doesn’t mean he’ll say yes, I just want to know if it is proper not to ask him? Thanks
Post # 3
I think you should invite him and if he declines, make sure that he is provided with a wrapped plate to take with him.
Post # 4
I asked this before, it was reommended that you invite him to the wedding.
Post # 5
Invite him, usually you send it to the church secretary and s/he will let you know how far in advance they’d like it. i don’t see any reason why you’d have to send home a wrapped plate, though?
Post # 6
My priest invited himself already by way of offering to bless the meal. I didn’t grow up saying grade before every meal and we don’t do it now so it caught me a bit off guard but if he’s willing to do it, we’ll feed him. He mentioned he won’t stay late and also noted that the reception is a bit far so maybe he won’t make it but we’re lanning to set a place for him.
Post # 7
I think you should invite him. He may decline (I probably would since I don’t know anyone there!). I still don’t know how to do this. I’ve been told that I have to invited my officiant and his wife. I will probably do so but I really don’t want to! I’ve only met the man once and spoken via email from then on. Are we supposed to send an invitation too?
Post # 9
I totally understand what you’re saying, but I think etiquette wise, you have to invite him. We have two officiants, and we invited both of them, even though we don’t have any personal relationship with them. They both declined (because they said they don’t typically stay for the reception, because they don’t know people, etc.) It’s very possible that he will decline your offer.
Post # 10
I think you definitely need to invite him. In my experience most do not accept anyways!
Post # 11
I’ll go ahead and invite him, and keep my fingers crossed he’ll decline. It sounds horrible to say, but I’d be on edge the whole time he was there, because of grooms family. Thanks everyone.