(Closed) feeding the people you hire?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: For my wedding I did or I am...

    buying my hires for the days food that is the same food my guests are eating

    buying my hires for the days food but, I got them something other than guests food (if so what)

    not considering myself responsible for their food but, they have a break (at what part of the day?)

    not considering myself responsible for their food and they are not taking a dinner break

  • Post # 16
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    FOOD IS FUEL!!!<br /><br />I have it in my contract that my associate and myself are to be provided meals during the same time as the guests and if not then we have to leave the premises to go find food and come back which obviously isn’t good for anyone. (FYI no one wants pictures of them eating lol not very flattering) and if we are eating and something is happening we always stop to go back to shoot, wait for it to be over and then continue eating but even then we eat fairly quickly. I’m not picky I don’t have to have the same food as the guests. It shouldn’t have to be in anyone’s contract, it’s kind of common sense. <br /><br /><br />

    Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I know I can’t go 10 hours without a break for food.  (Heck, considering normal “meal times” here are 7 am, 12 pm, and 6 pm, I would expect anything more than 6 hours to rrequire a meal.)

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We fed our jazz band (3 piece) as they were starting their set right after the buffet lunch, so I told them to come a bit early and have something to eat.  We offered our photographer a meal, but she declined and said she would bring her own food.

    I can’t imagine not allowing the vendors to have a break or two and either inviting them to eat, or letting them leave to pick up their own food.  How awful of that one bride that someone mentioned, not letting her DJ eat for 14 hours…what a bitch.

    Post # 19
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    Sugar bee

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    LadyPeacockk:  Why is there even a question?  IMO it’s rude not to feed them or even give them an alternative {cheaper} meal.  They are working or you.

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    LadyPeacockk:  Ask your caterer how they handle vendors – they’re likely to have some options already set in place.  We had stations and had the option of providing separate “vendor meals” (a club sandwich and sides) or station access to our vendors.  We were NOT charged full-price for the vendors for either option – one of the many awesome things about our catering.  I asked my coordinator what was normal.  Initially, she said vendor meals were perfectly acceptable and would be appreciated but later, after we found out that the pricing was the same either way she suggested we ask what everyone preferred.  Everyone chose to go to the stations.  Our photographers ate while we did – I think they waited until the lines died down a little and then got stuff.  The DJ grabbed a plate and ate at his station.  I honestly don’t know when our coordinators ate but they raved about the food so I know they got some!

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I definitely feed everyone! I used to be a photographer. I’m WAY MORE HUNGRY as a photographer because I’m on my feet all day, slugging heavy equipment, and even though I pack lots of water and energy bars, I really need the entree that is being served to guests for the food to be adequate (getting the soup or salad on top is a treat, I don’t expect that nor do I expect dessert, just the entree). I’ve had “vendor meals” before and the limp little sandwich just wasn’t giving me enough energy. Attending a wedding as a guest, my appetite went way down! I’d say that the people who deserves to eat the most are your physical laborers – your photographer, your catering staff, etc.

    Post # 22
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

    I think it depends on the person your hiring. The photographer we’re hoping to hire specifically states he doesn’t require his meals (and that the bride and groom need not feel pressured to do so), though they are appreciated. Our venue does offer vendor meals for $17.50 which is what I do plan to get for him as a courtesy (before I realized the venue offered this I was planning on bringing him a sort of thankyou basket filled with snacks and water and things).

    However, now things are looking like for the specific venue we want we may have to wind up paying for 20 more guests than we actually have since they have a minimum guest count, and if that’s the route we take then he certainly can have a guest meal if he wants one.

    Post # 23
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    It my area it’s expected you feed all of your help that day. Not even something we think about because its the polite thing to do. Yes you have hired them but a lot of the time the photographer is working at least 8 hours.. I’m sorry after 8 hours at my job and I haven’t eaten my work begins to slack and I get grumpy.

    Post # 24
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    Helper bee

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    LadyPeacockk:  Not sure if I commented on this. We only had the Photographer as our Day long vendor. No DJ.. She ate the same meal as the Guests and had Cake too. She worked 10 hours the day of our wedding and it was important to me that she had enough energy to make it through the long hours. She was very happy and grateful– and did an excellent job with our photos and even returned to them to us VERY early. just 3 days after our wedding. I do want to note that she did not sit with the guests, She had her own table off to the side. It wasn’t decorated fancy or anything just a nice clean place she can sit and enjoy her food. 

     

    I had our caterers feed her FIRST so that when we were done and ready to do cake and dancing she wasn’t trying to show food in last minute. It worked out great. She actually got early and took pictures of the venue and a few more things while we were finishing up eating

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

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    LadyPeacockk:  It’s in most contracts if they are working over meal times the vendors should get fed, or time to leave to buy something. Which I totally agree with haha. The vendors are just eating whatever the guests eat, I don’t expect them to work all day on no food, I wouldn’t.

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee

    We fed our photographers and DJ the same meal as everyone else. They were included in the head count. 

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

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    LadyPeacockk:  I’m sure it’s been mentioned already – but most vendors that will be with you all day require a meal and stipulate such in their contract.  this usually includes photographers, videographer, DJ/music if they’re doing ceremony, cocktails/dinner and dancing and planner if you have one.  They spend almost if not the entire day with you, and you want them around for the most important parts (especially photo/video) so feeding them seems reasonable.  As for what to feed them – it’s all up to you and what your venue/caterer can provide as options.  You can choose to serve them the entire meal, just the salad and main, or main and dessert (or some other combination of courses) or some businesses even offer ‘vendor meal’ options which seemed to range from a ‘boxed’ lunch type meal, to a scaled down plated dinner.  We opted to seat our vendors in the reception space and provide full dinner as they were still working/filming … during dinner and it just made sense for the flow of the day.  But I’m sure there are lots of different scenarios that your venue can come up with.

    Post # 28
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    Newbee

    Our food costs $ 255 pp. I havebt thought about the food for the photographer and singer yet. So yes I need to gi e it a thought now. 

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    We are feeding our photographer and DJ, and the officiant is my pastor, so he and his family will be invited anyway.  My Fiance is a photographer, and he has been the second shooter at weddings.  He was at one where they could not even get a pitcher of water at the table!  The waitstaff kept saying no, until the groom stepped in and said they were welcome to something to eat and they could have whatever non-alcoholic beverage they provided.  And, we will be providing whatever the guests are eating.  It’s not that expensive, and it is stations, so it really isn’t an issue.

    Post # 30
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I have read horror stories where the “vendor meals” are pretty terrible.  One venue’s staff kept the meals that were meant for the vendors themselves, and gave the vendors a small sandwich and limp greens.  I would not contract with a venue like that!

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