(Closed) Feeding the photographer

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: should we invite photographer to dinner if not covering the evening - intimate family reception



  • Post # 2
    301 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I bet you’d get some lovely shots of the family dinner if you were so gracious to extend that invite. 

    Post # 3
    113 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think it would be a nice gesture to offer, you will be spending a good portion of the day with her. I would suggest talking with her ahead of time about the expectations for dinner. Chances are she will decline anyway if she doesn’t have to work into the evening.

    Post # 5
    375 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m seconding KellyTee’s response. She may decline, but it’s a wonderful gesture to extend. 

    Post # 6
    4038 posts
    Honey bee

    Not if your total is only 25, with immediate family and close friends only. Unless the photographer falls into one of those 2 categories? If I didn’t make the guest list cut, say I was #26, I think I’d be very hurt if a vendor got to eat with the guests, and I wasn’t there.

    Post # 7
    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    As a person who does photography, has a husband who is a DJ and saxophonist and has a sister who is a singer and a dad who is a singer, I say YES.  Unless you have done it, you have NO IDEA how gruelling it is to be on your feet.  I often bring snacks, but anytime I have an event I ALWAYS feed my photographer, musician, singer or DJ and they eat what we eat. 

    Our photographer and his wife both ate at our reception. 

    Post # 8
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

    I would feel like that dinner is a private event and since there’s so few people and if she’s not a close friend or something, won’t it feel a little uncomfortable? I like our photographer, don’t get me wrong, but if I’m going to dinner with only my immediate family and best friends I would feel a little awkward if he were there, and I’m sure he would too.

    I would say to pack your photographer a meal and some snacks for during the 5 hours that she’s working for you, but after it’s over then let her go home and go have dinner with those 25 people you’ve already invited.

    Post # 9
    7528 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I would just ask her what meal arrangements, if any, she had been expecting. She is there as a business woman, and like most of us, might be far happier to just go home after her “shift” than to stick around her workplace for a couple extra unpaid hours.

    Post # 11
    923 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

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    libraryowl:  Is she shooting anything after dinner or leaving when dinner starts? If she’s leaving when dinner starts, including her in the appetizers should be sufficient. I’d speak with her about it though. Personally, if I were her, I’d rather leave and get my own dinner, seeing as how I don’t know those people and my job has been completed. 

    Post # 12
    904 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    It would be a very nice thing for you to offer, but since she’s only going to be working with you for five hours she might not require that you provide a meal or break time.  I know my photographer only asks for a meal/break if booked for 8+ hours.  That said, I’ve only got her for 7 hours, but I’m still including her and her second shooter in the evening meal.  

    Post # 13
    46 posts
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We are doing a very similar small and intimate wedding at a restaurant. Our venue provides a vendor meal that they eat at the bar so they won’t be taking up a seat at our table. I would have been happy to have our photographer sit at the table with us but it’s an issue of numbers, there simply isn’t a seat available for her unless someone doesn’t show up.

    Post # 14
    3610 posts
    Sugar bee

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    libraryowl:  If the dinner is taking place after she has finished her work, I would say it’s a nice gesture but you don’t have to. If you do extend the offer, keep in mind that she might feel awkward as the lone outsider in an intimate group of family and friends (although I’m sure she will just decline if this is the case).

    Post # 15
    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    You should feed any vendors that will be spending the majority of the day with you such as DJ & crew/Photographer/Videographer, etc…

    Venues will usually set up a table to the side or hidden from guests where the vendors can go eat.

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