Post # 1
<p align=”left”>I’ve been with my BF for a year and a half and we’ve been living together for 5 months. Ever since I’ve been living with him I’ve felt that we should be engaged because some of the times I feel like a house wife and if we were engaged I’d be more accepted of it but since we’re not, it bothers me. But anyways, we went ring shopping yesterday and to be honest, I felt a little awkward and weird about the whole process. I’m not sure if it’s because it’s a surreal moment and I’m not really into jewelry or if it’s something else like cold feet. Ever since yesterday, I’ve been thinking about being engaged and I’m a little scared about it. I don’t think it’s because of my BF, I really think it’s because of the commitment. Did anyone else have these thoughts? Am I just over analyzing? Should I just relax and let it be?
Post # 3
I think that can be totally normal. My husband and I were together for more than 7 years before we finally got hitched, and while I was waiting for him to be ready, I had a lot of “oh god, this is huge!” thoughts.
The question is whether you’re anxious about the process (buying a really expensive ring, not really knowing when it will happen, not knowing how to deal with the sales people at a jewelry store) or whether you’re having thoughts more along the lines of “is this really the person I want to spend my life with?”
Have you guys discussed marriage before you went ring shopping? It sounds like this is just starting to happen and I think you need some time to sort out how you feel and what’s going on. Take a deep breath, and enjoy it as much as you can.
Post # 4
Yes, we’ve talked a marriage many of times. But going ring shopping is like something that you think about your whole life and then when you actually see it happening it feels like a dream. I was just feeling anxious and nervous but seeing your post and really thinking about it helped 🙂
I just need to enjoy it and know that everything will turn out the way it is supposed to.