(Closed) Feel being stretch during wedding night?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
3242 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

First time is painful for a lot of people. Take it slow and take a shot of whisky first! Lots of foreplay. Um, no the stretching is not the fun bit. It can take a few sessions before your vagina adapts. And don’t worry if it takes a few times before you are able to have full sex. Everyone is different. 

Post # 3
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Your vagina will stretch even when you are used to having sex, because your SO’s penis is almost always larger than your vaginal canal. This is normal and NOT a bad feeling–in fact, it is a pleasurable part of sex. 

Sex does NOT have to be painful for your first time. Not every woman even has a hymen, and there are many shapes and types of hymen that do not all cover the vaginal entrance. Many, many women will have already broken their hymen before they have intercourse, perhaps without realizing it. 

Personally, I never noticed my hymen breaking, tearing, or moving or anything. There was no blood or pain from the hymen.

Just relax, go slow, make sure you are well lubricated, and try to relax your pelvic floor muscles while he is entering you instead of tensing them up. (In fact, tending your pelvic muscles in anticipation of pain is sometimes the only cause of the pain.) Virgin vaginas have just as much ability to stretch to accept a penis as non-virgin vaginas. Your vagina doesn’t actually get looser after you start having sex–usually you are just more relaxed and don’t tense your pelvic floor muscles. 

The stretching should feel pleasant unless your pelvic floor muscles are too tense. Try to relax, go slow, and make him hold still for a moment so that you can breathe and relax around him. Then continue on. Again, the stretching should feel good! The reason women sometimes like men with large penises is because they will stretch their vagina more. Small penises are sometimes seen as worse because they won’t stretch you enough and give you enough stimulation during sex.

Please don’t think sex will necessarily be painful for the first time. That does NOT have to be true. Good luck!

Post # 4
2122 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

It doesn’t always hurt. I had a very thick septate hymen which wouldn’t break with intercourse, so telling you how it felt for me is pointless.

However, I can tell you that the vaginal walls lie together touching when you’re not aroused or having sex. So you will feel slightly strange sensations when you first have sex, I remember a slight stinging, not painful enough to stop or distract me. which leads me on to something else.

If it hurts, stop. Slow down. Go back to foreplay. You’ll need a whole lot of it before penetrative sex anyway.

You don’t need to stretch your vagina. However if you want to, try just using your fingers. Maybe buy a small dildo. Don’t view it so clinically though. Have fun and experiment. See how good it feels. Enjoy!

Post # 6
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’d highly reccomend a sex-ed class or doc with a doc before you get married…

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