(Closed) Feel guilty about not living home anymore?

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Awww sweetie… I’m sure your parents are just happy to be able to walk around naked again for the first time in 23 plus years. 

Joking, but really most parents hope to raise a child that grows up to be self sufficient.  I moved out to college 6 hours away when I was 18 and never came back so I don’t really know how often adult children that live locally should visit but I’m sure they appreciate that you care enough to be this concerned πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Aw! I know how you feel. I don’t live at home or with my boyfriend as I am finishing grad school about 2 hours away, but I am anxious for when I move home and move in with my boyfriend and not back home with my dad. I think I’m extra anxious because my mom died when I was little and my dad never remarried. I know he’s happy I am happy and in love and I am sure your parents feel the same.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe you can pick one night a week to visit with your parents, like Sunday night dinners, so you can all get together?

I feel the same way, I find it really hard to move forward and not feel l ike I am leaving everyone behind. I hope you get some good advice, because I am over 30 and I still feel this way!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think it will be very hard to decide a specific amount of times you need to visit family for it to be “enough”, I mean it is very much up to yourself to try and see.

I wish I could visit my parents more often but since I study very far away it is more or less only possible during summer and winter breaks…

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Thats so sweet you feel that way.  Maybe you should invite them over for dinner.  I actually just officially moved out last month,  Fiance and I bought a house and while I spent a lot of time at his place, I still went home a lot.  My mother actually had some sort of panic attack/breakdown type thing.  Needless to say she made things difficult.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Girl, I totally know how you feel! I left for college when I was 18 then moved back home after I graduated and stayed there for 2 more years, then moved 3 hours away for grad school (and to be with my now husband). I felt so sad leaving my parents and I felt bad not visiting them all the time. 4 years later I still feel the same way but it’s not as constant as it used to be. My family always spent a lot of time together and ate dinner together….and I spent a lot of time with my mom. So sometimes I wonder if she feels sad because I left her…but at the same time I know that she’s happy I have my husband and I’ve grown up to be successful.  I go home about once a month now and it seems like my family understands that I’m grown with my own life now so I don’t feel as guilty. I do however try to make more trips home if my mom asks when I’m coming home again. My friends that live in the same city as their parents go home for dinner once a week and that seems to work well. Hang in there–it gets easier! And…at least they still have your sister at home (at least that what it sounds like?) so you shouldn’t feel too guilty!

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