(Closed) Feel like a total failure as a woman

posted 8 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
1201 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@HisMoon:  I wouldn’t worry about it! Everyone is allowed to have an “off” day where they aren’t feeling the most beautiful or confident. I would just take in stride and approach another day since you still have time to find the right make-up! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 4
1360 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Im sorry πŸ™ You tube videos really help with make up stuff, no joke my entire experience comes from them (and if I must say so myself I am oretty good at make up) and I’ve also discovered that the little sponge thingies that the eye shadows come with are terrible I usually use my fingers, but seriously you tube!!!! And hey, I am sure your Fiance thinks your DA BOMB as a woman lol

Post # 5
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh wow, I feel the same!! I’ve been going into sephora and mac over the last month trying to get makeup since we have a remote location and I need to do my own make up with zero skills.

Luckily MAC have a kick ass exchange policy.

I was trying on makeup last night and it looked horrible and made my pores look worse. The Fiance got home and I was almost in tears!

Try watching the tutorals http://www.makeupgeek.com, and there are some good ones on youtube as well.



Post # 6
595 posts
Busy bee

@HisMoon:  You and me both. I hardly ever wear any makeup. When I do wear makeup I only wear mascara on my upper eye-lashes and light pink lip gloss. THAT IS IT. I never go crazy with makeup and never had. One time I put makeup on my SO was like “WTF? You don’t need all that crap you look much better without it.” I usually tend to keep it as light and neutral as possible for job interviews/weddings/events etc…

You don’t need to pack on foundation, blush, mascara, eyeshadow, lip gloss/stick/liner, eye liner and more…….. Sure some women put on a whole MASK before they leave the house in the morning and are unrecognizable when they take it off!

You don’t NEED to pile on a ton of makeup for your engagement photos. You don’t wear makeup in your every day life to begin with so I would stick to the basics. Do you really need all the rest? I doubt it. Odds are if you don’t wear makeup than your SO loves the way you look naturally, and if you want to put on some for the engagement pics that is great, but keep it simple- LESS IS MORE! πŸ™‚

Post # 7
1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@HisMoon:  You should go to a department store that offers free makeovers, or even the ones you have to pay for (like for example, buy a lipstick). Theyll be able to try a bunch of different color combos on you, you can see and feel what you like best. Not to mention most of them will help teach you how to do it yourslf when you get home. THEN once you find stuff you like and you know it works like you want, you can buy it from them. I steer clear of lipstick becausee I have NO idea what lipstick color will look good on me, but I want to wear it! We shouldnt let fear hold us back from what we want! If you promise to not give up and go get some advice, I will too! πŸ˜›

Post # 8
1176 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Too funny. I am also completely incompetent at makeup as I only wear it to weddings and funerals. I like to go to Sephora or Bloomingdale’s and have the ladies help me out. Costs more but so much easier.

Post # 9
598 posts
Busy bee

I would totally recommend going to a Sephora, London Drugs, Shoppers Drug Mart, anything. I have worked in Cosmetics for 4 years. They/we can help you pick out and apply everything, that is why we are here!!! 

Post # 10
41 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

@HisMoon:  Giant *hugs*!!!!! You should never, ever ever feel as a failure as a woman just because you don’t fit in a narrow definition of how we “should” look. And I am 100% with you when it comes to knowing nothing about makeup anyd all that, so I definately know how overwhelming it can be to be stuck in those aisles. Lovely is completely right when she says that everyone is allowed to have an “off” day where you just feel down about yourself. Today just happened to be that day.

I will admit to what I do every time I have a big thing coming up. I go up to the beauty counter with the lady who looks the least like a clown and have her do my makeup for me. I even did this when I was maid of honor for my friends wedding cause otherwise it would have been done by my friend. Love her to death, but we don’t exactly have similar hair and skintones! lol

Post # 11
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have been there.  I still laugh at photos of some of my earlier attempts at wearing makeup. What somehow hit the “switch” for me and made it easier to figure out was when I got a gift card to Origins (actually, from FI) that came along with a free makeup application and tutorial. Somehow, just seeing it done and having it explained helped a ton.  Even though I didn’t like everything she did – I noticed what I did and didn’t like, and was able to work off of that.  Suddenly, I could figure out makeup a whole lot better.  I haven’t actually been to a makeup counter application since, but I think doing it at least once could be helpful – pick a brand that represents the kind of look you are going for, and try it out!  

Post # 12
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

When I was a teen, I was pretty decent at make up. Now though, it has taken a while to get the hang of it again, BUT I can do it even better now.

The paint by colour things are hard to do. You’ll need a couple of different size brushes, the little ‘bud’ things that come with the eyeshadow just don’t work well. I use a medium sized brush and a small brush.

As for the lipstick colour, don’t worry about it. You can always get another one, or jist wear gloss.

You don’t fail at being a woman, this stuff takes practice, it does get easier but until a few months ago, I had never used primer, concealer or finishing powder and my attempts at eyeshadow were pathetic. I can do a decent job now though, so just keep trying, you’ll get there!

Post # 13
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Awww!  Don’t feel bad.  What really helps is using neutral eyeshadows at first and sticking to three colors (brow bone color, crease, and lid), and “your lips but better” lipstick shades.

Post # 14
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am pretty clueless when it comes to hair. I always just put it up in a ponytail because I don’t know how to do anything else. I got a little better with makeup after getting tips from my professional makeup artist for my wedding. I think you should look into going to Sephora or Ulta and asking someone for help. Maybe even get a free makeover. Also, this is going to sound very materialistic of me and I don’t know your financial situation, but giiiirl……. thrift stores and Target? You can’t splurge on yourself just a little? πŸ™‚

Post # 16
47 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

Don’t feel bad… I am the same! I rarely ever wear make up & I had my make up trial and it was a disaster!!!! I felt like a clown!!!! FH says I should do my own make up… But I want a nice dramatic eye and I don’t know how too.

You know what feels right so go with your gut – Order multiple sample if you must )and have time) and take your own make up to your make up trail… AND you’re definitely NOT a failure! x

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