(Closed) Feel like a total failure as a woman

posted 8 years ago in Beauty
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

don’t stress about it! it’s not like we were all born knowing how to do that kind of thing. i’ve been wearing makeup since high school and have had my license in cosmetology for 9 years and i still have days where my makeup doesn’t look good. it just takes practice.

as others have already said, start with more neutral colors and once you’re comfortable with those, then play around with the “fun” colors. and throw away the spongey applicators that come with everything. they suck. brushes work so much better. you can get decent, inexpensive ones at target or walmart.

and what helps me a lot is watching people. when i was getting started doing hair, i spent a lot of time just observing stylists i worked with to see the different techniques they used. maybe a friend or family member would let you watch them? and of course there’s always youtube.

i love that your fiance helped you pick out makeup! that’s so sweet!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@HisMoon: I can imagine it was a really overwhelming experience for you, nothing more impossible than trying to pick out colours under garish fluorescent lighting with a dizzying array of products before you!

If you have a spare hour or so, I would get down to your local department store and get a makeover/makeup lesson from a professional makeup artist. I’m assuming you want a natural, foolproof look, and for that I would recommend somewhere like Bobbi Brown or Laura Mercier. They will colour-match your foundation, much easier than trying to work out your colour yourself. Most beauty brands will do your makeup, and teach you how to DIY, usually in exchange for you buying products up to the value of XX. I know MAC actually does makeup classes from time to time. You can call and book in advance, to make sure you don’t go on a super busy day where they’re inundated with customers. 

And really, it doesn’t have to be so complicated. You just need to work out which features you want to highlight, which ‘flaws’ you’d like to conceal, and work from there. I’m a makeup junkie with a ton of products (worked at Lancome and Dior while I was at university) but I really only reach for a handful of products on a daily basis. Once you have your kit, and your routine…you’ll be able to do it in your sleep. 🙂

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

If it makes you feel any better, I stab myself in the eyeball with my mascara brush every single time and my waterline is so sensitive that it tickles and I cry and screw the whole thing up.

For foundation, try holding it to the inside of your wrist. It’ll be more true to the color of your natural skintone than your face and if you can dab a tiny bit on your wrist, you can check it out in sunlight to see how well it matches.

Also, lip stains are evil. They never come out the color they’re supposed to, so when in doubt, go a shade darker.

 

ETA: Your skin color changes (Durp) in the summer. Your “winter makeup” will not look too good in the summer/spring times when you get more sun and are likely to have a darker skin color.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Do you have any photos? Maybe you can post those and we can go from there. I’m sure the bees could all give you tips like “do this instead of that, maybe this other shade for you” that sort of thing. Also just because the other women went through there briefly does not mean that they will look good or know what they are doing. Do you have any girly friends that you can have a makeup/makeover day with? I would love to try different makeups with my friends. (I’m kind of girly like that though)

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@HisMoon:  I think that you should go to somewhere like Sephora if you’ve never worn makeup, because you can have one of their employees help you out and try on the products at the store.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@lauraashley09:  +1 I would try a Sephora or a Clinique counter. They are really sweet and can help even the most woefully unmake-up inspired girls. (I count. lol)

You could even schedule an appt and theyll do your makeup the day of the shoot!

Post # 23
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Trust me, if you don’t wear a lot of makeup normally, you will ALWAYS think that you look ridiculous. Any time I try to wear lip color or more than one color of eyeshadow, I hate it (though, oddly, Fiance loves it).

I’ll echo the suggestion to hit up a makeup counter and have them help you. The only bad part is that I don’t often like their color suggestions. I’m very fair with cool undertones and one lady tried to glop on this awful purply/brown lip color on me. A lady at Ulta tried to color match my foundation to a medium beige shade when I’m their lightest shade (she said it would “give my face some color,” which a) it has, thank you, b) that’s what blush is for, and c) the color was so dark it made me look orange and my neck super white).

Anyway, if you want to do it at home, I’m a big fan of Pinterest and MissChevious.tv tutorials. You absolutely don’t have to use the exact products they use–I just use similar colors and it always looks great. I’m a huge fan of ELF products because they’re cheap.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@vorpalette:  Yeah I had the same thing happen to me at a makeup counter. I got “matched” to a color and then I went outside and it was about 3 shades too dark! I looked orange!

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I can’t do anything right, so don’t feel bad.

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@HisMoon:  Go to Ulta or another salon and ask for a makeup trial. I go every few years to pick up new colors and techniques.

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