MemberMy ex is receiving clear direction from God, don’t marry AussieSummer, be single, work on yourself etc while I am over here drowning. What is God’s plan for me? It hits me over and over like waves, I’m SO alone. I feel really dark and am fearing for my future.
I literally have to start from scratch, square one ALL OVER AGAIN with someone new and I hate that. I am SO scared. I don’t want to get dumped again.
Member@AussieSummer: I don’t have any real advice.. It sucks to get dumped and I’m sorry 🙁
Maybe you are being told something though. It can be hard to figure out what the message is in times like these but sometimes it takes sorrow to find joy.
I hope you figure it out. Best wishes to you.
MemberYou are not alone! God has plans for you to give you hope and a future! Seek His will for your life! It will be better than you imagined!
MemberIt’s hard to find Gods plan or wisdom for us during tough times. But you WILL get through this, and great things are awaiting for you!
Member@AussieSummer: I believe your feelings are drowning out from you getting a sign. It is so hard to hear and see things when things seem so bad. Keep praying, things will become more clear. It is so hardto start again but you will find someone better for you, I’m sure of it 🙂 *hugs fromafar*.
MemberTake control of your life. You can do it. The guy is sooo not worth it. Please listen and just cut off all contact!! Be single for a while. The right guy will come along.
MemberAww I’m sorry 🙁
Whenever I’m feeling really down about myself or a situation that I’m in I just think that it could be worse. Things could always, always be worse.
MemberHe’s not ignoring you, he’s carrying you just hang on for the ride. (that’s from footprints, that particular poem carried me through a lot of tough times) I’m so sorry you are feeling so alone, I remember feeling that way myself and it’s scary. ((hugs)) if you ever want to dm and just talk, feel free to any time I’m up at all kinds of crazy hours.
Member@AussieSummer: stop trying to find out “what’s next” and just live
For example, you want to go somewhere. You know what that place looks like, and what it’ll feel like when you get there. You get in your car, excited and ready to go. You thought there was going to be someone in the passenger seat with you but it turns out they’re not coming. The longer you sit there wondering why they’re not coming, the longer it’ll take you to get to that place you want to be! You go to drive, you don’t know how to get there. Do you sit there and cry? No! You start driving, ask for directions along the way, you kind of know the way…and finally you make an unexpected turn and you’re there.
don’t “sit in the car”. Read books, go out with friends, find a hobby, get back to doing things to be happy for yourself, forget about the person that’s no longer in the passenger seat. The sooner you start driving, the faster you’ll get there.
MemberGod doesn’t tell people what to do. We make our own decisions. Don’t look for signs that aren’t there, get yourself on track.
Member“Starting over” is a really daunting concept at times.
But work on thinking of it as a really EXCITING thing. You get to start from scratch and make it even BETTER this time. You get to feel the exhillaration of finding a new version of yourself, and maybe you’ll even get to have the wonderful feeling of falling in love again. Don’t worry about getting dumped. That justs drags you down. ANd remember: you have to kiss a few frogs
And don’t compare yourself to you ex. All that will do is hold you back. You have the unique opportunity to just worry about yourself right now, so take advantage of that.
Member@MrsP0801: I really love the passenger example. That’s a really good way of putting it.
@AussieSummer: I read your recent posts/updates. It sounds so cliche, but you have to focus on you and on improving your self-esteem. You’ve gone through the wringer. Is there maybe a counselor or someone at your church that you can talk to?
MemberIf you’re looking for God’s hand in this (and I really don’t presume to know what the big plan is), perhaps His plan is for you to find inner strength, and become more confident in yourself. Know that starting over is not always a bad thing when it allow you to grow.
Member@AussieSummer: I am very sorry you are going through a hard time, but things will get better.
i have to say, having read your previous posts, I do not believe for one moment that God is directing your ex to manipulative, cruel, and toy with you and your emotions. His horrendous behavior is a choice he is making, and he is not man enough to take responsibility for his own behavior. There is nothing wrong with breaking up with someone if the relationship isn’t working. It is painful, but sometimes it is the right thing to do. However, the way he has handled himself has been disgraceful. for him to try and blame God for his bad behavior is absurd, and I would presume is also very offensive to genuinely religious people.
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