(Closed) Feel like I need to switch RCIA teachers

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@RedAngelDreamer:  

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with the deacon!  I also just started RCIA, we’ve had two classes.  At first I was just unsure about the whole thing because I didn’t know the leaders – we have our priest, his assistant and a woman who teaches theology for three of us (overkill!) so its a bit overwhelming.

But I wanted to tell you that the deacon would probably be pretty receptive to tailoring the class to you since there are three of you.  Maybe you should try talking to him first, before you just leave.  I noticed even between our first and second class the direction/method has changed to become more personal.  It helps when you share your stories/reasons for being there, and ask alot of questions.  FI comes with me as my sponsor, so between the two of us we just ask questions through the night and it takes the class in the direction we’re interested in and they’re pretty happy we participate.

Maybe a note might be an easier way to share your thoughts with the deacon?  He is there to guide you, and maybe if he doesn’t know you well he isn’t sure how to take the class so he just uses his usual way. I think its a bit early to give up!  Though I understand your desire to learn with the priest who might marry you – it feels pretty special I’m sure.  This is also a chance for you to develop a new relationship and perspective.  Is there a reason you chose this parish over the other parish with the priest you know?  Perhaps spend some time with FI’s mom or even ask her to come to a class to support you and it will give her a chance to share her story and thoughts?

I’m happy for you to be going on this journey!  If you ever want someone to chat with going through the program, feel free to PM me 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Definitely talk to the deacon and ask him if he can weave some interaction and some day-to-day examples in with the cerebral stuff. As a teacher, it’s really important to get feedback from students on whether or not they are connecting with you – and I’m sure everyone in the class would benefit, not just you.

Maybe if you are nervous approaching him about it yourself, talk to the other RCIA participants? It might be easier for all of you to approach him together, and it will help him to see that he needs to adjust his approach for everyone’s sake, not just for one person.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@RedAngelDreamer:  There are a few bees on the journey with us this year 🙂  Our classes run from October to the Easter Vigil (we are being married in May) just for this year – it’s faster than I expected.  We meet twice a month for about 2.5 hours following the short evening mass (last time there were about 10 people there).  Our classes start with a prayer, a short reading from an introductory text they gave us, and then the rest of the time we just discuss things and ask questions.  Some of it is concrete stuff, like “tell me about the rosary and how to use it” and then there’s stuff like “how did you become a priest and why” or “what do you hope to gain from coming here?” The leaders like to talk alot and there are three of them so its more of a discussion than a lecture.  I’m the opposite of you, I’m more an academic and grew up in the church so I’m interested in the historical and ritual differences between Christian denominations… I’d prefer a lecture sometimes I think but I can see how that would be boring.  Our classes end with a last round of comments/questions and then a prayer and we go home.  

Maybe, with the nature of your town’s church group you can switch without causing a rift by saying you’d like to develop a relationship with the priest who will be marrying you?  Or have you talked to him?  Maybe he has suggestions and it sounds like he knows the Deacon.  Perhaps your two small groups can join up once in a while, if the town is close-knit.

I’d love to have an RCIA buddy if you want to keep up chatting with each other! I don’t really have anyone at home to talk about it with other than Fiance.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Your RCIA classes last for 2 by years?? Mine started September 20th til April 11th. And we meet every Thursday evening.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@RedAngelDreamer:  The book we’re using is “The Heart of Faith” – its teenie tiny lol I’m not sure how its going to last so many months.  I’m so glad you feel welcome with your priest 🙂 it makes it feel more ilke family.

Are you going to switch leaders?  Honestly, the 2 year thing seems long and the Deacon seems like a bit of a stickler.  I can understand where he’s coming from but that’s a huge commitment.  As far as the literacy thing – does he make you study/read?  I can see that being an issue.

So, random comment.  We were in mass today and a baby was baptised.  FI said “see, I get you lift you up and the priest will pour water over your head just like the baby”… haha ok so he’s joking… right?  LOL But I’m just curious if you’ve talked with your group about exactly what is required and what we participate in and how the actual initiation stuff happens…?  

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Gosh that’s crazy and I can’t blame ya for switching.

i always read that when we get baptised, we just lean over the fountain thing, and he pours the holy water on us. Not too sure which way we bend though lol!

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