(Closed) feel like i want to scream …..

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

This I always so hard. You are happy for her/them but it still is painful. I hope everything works out for you soon. Sorry to hear about your recent loss. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

*huge hugs*

It’s definitely hard! We’re on our 12th month NTNP (but definitely hoping!) and it gets tough when women around me are getting pregnant, especially so easily. I wish I had some advice for you but I really don’t, I just want you to know that you’re not alone in how you feel and it’s totally to be expected. I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage and I hope you get your little miracle soon!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

*hugs for you*

It’s so hard, I know. Yeah, I hate those people. I mean I love them, but I hate them. I am not above feeling totally jealous. A friend of mine likened it to back when you’re 16 and all you want to do is get your licence. And everyone you know is driving but you’re not yet. I thought that was a great analogy, made sense to me.

I will say this – women are very strong creatures. The thing I did notice was that as soon as I opened up to my girlfriends about having mc’s, suddenly everyone has a story or knows someone who’s gone through difficulty having babies. It’s very common, but no one talks about it so all you hear about are the good stories.

Be happy for your sister, one day she’ll be so happy for you. 🙂

 

 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mrsgummybear:  I worked as nursery nurse when I had my m/c in September. I had to leave work early once because I couldn’t handle it. Then a week later, we found out DH’s sister was 12 weeks along. It felt like a smack to the face (but she had no clue about our m/c). It was just the timing of everything. It’s so hard seeing someone have what we want/had. I’m so sorry for your loss. It does get  better… but I still have days that I struggle. Hugs to you… PM me if you need anything.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@mrsgummybear:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this. 🙁 🙁 If you need to scream, scream.  If you need to cry, cry.  You have to do what feels right for you emotionally and mentally right now.  If you need to take some time away from your pg friends for a little while, do that too. Probably the best thing I have done for my sanity has been to hide all my Facebook friends who are pregnant and posting constant status updates and bump pictures of their pregnancies. While I don’t blame them for being excited, it was more than I could handle on a daily basis, and when I’m ready to handle them again, I’ll just un-hide them.

While I’ve never had a miscarriage, we’ve been TTC over 18 months now and I somewhat understand how it feels to have all of your hopes and dreams for the future slipping away, while everyone around you gets what you are aching for.  My sister is 8 weeks into her 2nd pregnancy since we started trying and 5 coworkers in our small office have gotten pregnant and gone on maternity leave since we started trying. One of those coworkers will be back from her one year mat leave in 2 months…It’s hard.  It’s heart and soul wrenching.

Give yourself the space you need, take care of yourself, and lean on those who can support you and understand where you’re coming from. I always find it helps when I look at my hubby and tell myself how lucky I am to have him.  Then keep hoping and praying for your sticky baby! xoxoxo 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I’m so sorry:( Having a MC is sad enough but having so many close pregnant friends around you has really got to hurt. But just keep up the hope.  So many girls here have had MC to get another BFP soon after and have healthy babies.  But take your time now to mourn but there is always hope.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mrsgummybear:  In my office today I have to deal with everyone all a-buzz and gushing because a co-worker just had her baby so we got the announcement with picture on our email. So I got thinking about this post.

Sucks. I’m actually handling ok though. Maybe I’m starting to feel better. I just try to think that my turn will come.

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