Post # 1
my sister just called round to tell me shes pregnant AGAIN! she has a 32month old son, a 11month old daughter and now she is 12 weeks pregnant. she brought me the scan to look at. she was really excited then seemed to remember i had a mc last week and said “im really sorry!”. the kicker they wernt even trying she was actually on the pill, she only realised she was pregnant last week and she already got to see her healthy little baby. im so gutted!
already three of my five closest friends are pregnant, i deal with pregnant bellies on a weekly basis. and i work as a nursery nurse so im around babies a lot.
i am happy for my friends and sister but i think the mc has hit me yesterday really bad. please bees any coping techniques. i have major respect for the ladies who have been ttc for such a long time.
Post # 3
This I always so hard. You are happy for her/them but it still is painful. I hope everything works out for you soon. Sorry to hear about your recent loss.
Post # 4
It’s definitely hard! We’re on our 12th month NTNP (but definitely hoping!) and it gets tough when women around me are getting pregnant, especially so easily. I wish I had some advice for you but I really don’t, I just want you to know that you’re not alone in how you feel and it’s totally to be expected. I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage and I hope you get your little miracle soon!
Post # 5
*hugs for you*
It’s so hard, I know. Yeah, I hate those people. I mean I love them, but I hate them. I am not above feeling totally jealous. A friend of mine likened it to back when you’re 16 and all you want to do is get your licence. And everyone you know is driving but you’re not yet. I thought that was a great analogy, made sense to me.
I will say this – women are very strong creatures. The thing I did notice was that as soon as I opened up to my girlfriends about having mc’s, suddenly everyone has a story or knows someone who’s gone through difficulty having babies. It’s very common, but no one talks about it so all you hear about are the good stories.
Be happy for your sister, one day she’ll be so happy for you. 🙂
Post # 6
@mrsgummybear: I worked as nursery nurse when I had my m/c in September. I had to leave work early once because I couldn’t handle it. Then a week later, we found out DH’s sister was 12 weeks along. It felt like a smack to the face (but she had no clue about our m/c). It was just the timing of everything. It’s so hard seeing someone have what we want/had. I’m so sorry for your loss. It does get better… but I still have days that I struggle. Hugs to you… PM me if you need anything.
Post # 7
@mrsgummybear: I’m so sorry you’re going through this. 🙁 🙁 If you need to scream, scream. If you need to cry, cry. You have to do what feels right for you emotionally and mentally right now. If you need to take some time away from your pg friends for a little while, do that too. Probably the best thing I have done for my sanity has been to hide all my Facebook friends who are pregnant and posting constant status updates and bump pictures of their pregnancies. While I don’t blame them for being excited, it was more than I could handle on a daily basis, and when I’m ready to handle them again, I’ll just un-hide them.
While I’ve never had a miscarriage, we’ve been TTC over 18 months now and I somewhat understand how it feels to have all of your hopes and dreams for the future slipping away, while everyone around you gets what you are aching for. My sister is 8 weeks into her 2nd pregnancy since we started trying and 5 coworkers in our small office have gotten pregnant and gone on maternity leave since we started trying. One of those coworkers will be back from her one year mat leave in 2 months…It’s hard. It’s heart and soul wrenching.
Give yourself the space you need, take care of yourself, and lean on those who can support you and understand where you’re coming from. I always find it helps when I look at my hubby and tell myself how lucky I am to have him. Then keep hoping and praying for your sticky baby! xoxoxo
Post # 8
I’m so sorry:( Having a MC is sad enough but having so many close pregnant friends around you has really got to hurt. But just keep up the hope. So many girls here have had MC to get another BFP soon after and have healthy babies. But take your time now to mourn but there is always hope.
Post # 9
@mrsgummybear: In my office today I have to deal with everyone all a-buzz and gushing because a co-worker just had her baby so we got the announcement with picture on our email. So I got thinking about this post.
Sucks. I’m actually handling ok though. Maybe I’m starting to feel better. I just try to think that my turn will come.
Post # 10
thanks ladies for all the encouragement and kind words, things are starting to look up, me and DH had a talk and decided that it must of happened for a reason and that we are going to try again.
jasonashley our stories are so similiar, i dont think people realise how hard it is to be around babies and toddlers all day when you want one of your own, im sorry to hear about your mc, how are you doing? when my sister told me i think that was my breaking point, it just seems so unfair.
MrsFarmer i have the utmost respect for you, having nephews or nieces is awesome but i cant wait to hold my baby, bet you feel the same. your post actually helped me remember how lucky i am to have my husband and how i kind of had blocked him out through my own grief so thank you. im keeping my fingers crossed for BFP for both of us.
Sunshine09 aww hun that sucks, our time will happen its the waiting thats getting to me. got handed a 3month old baby at work and felt my heart melt. maybe we’ll get good christmas news x