(Closed) feel like I’ll never find “the one”

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Whats your budget look like lady? Ive been online browsing for MONTHS and might be able to help you! You have almost all of my requirements too! I promise you will find one and it will jump out and scream “Its me, it’s meeee!!!!

Post # 5
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I browsed online at dresses for a while before I went shopping. There was one I was in LOVE with but no one carried it, so I went around and tried on dresses like it. When I first tried my dress on, it was pretty. I didn’t cry or say “Oh my gosh this is it!!!”, but I smiled and my parents said it looked better than the others I’d tried. It had one pickup (which I hate) that made me hesitant, but an alterations woman at the salon said it was easily removeable. Still, I kept shopping but came back to that dress because it was the one I felt like a bride in. All the gowns were beautiful, but I couldn’t picture myself getting married in them. In my dress I felt comfortable, beautiful, and bridal. You’ll find something! Don’t get discouraged!

Post # 6
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MissTaken: I don’t think everyone has that moment you are talking about – where you just know.

I tried on my dress and as I kept it on longer I just didn’t want to take it off, but I didn’t just put it on and know.

I did a lot of looking online for dress styles I might like, knowing that the stores may not have all the specific styles, so I tried not to get too attached to a specific dress.  After I tried on a few dresses at the first place, I knew just what kind of dress I wanted.  At the 2nd store, I found a dress I really liked, but I wasn’t crazy about the fabric.  I printed out that picture and took it to the 3rd store, where I found my dress! 

I think if you go to a store where the consultant can pull dresses for you, she will be able to pull the best dresses based on your requirements above.  Its hard to pick out dresses yourself as you can’t envision yourself in these dresses the way the seasoned consultants can.

Good luck and keep us posted!

Post # 7
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honestly, I just picked a dress that worked well in the end. I don’t know if there was a one for me, but the one I ended up with looks great and I think my Fi will really like.

Post # 9
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

For me, I thought I knew what i wanted (exactly what you described as what you don’t want!) But every single dress with rosettes and 3D detailing made me look like a child.  The dress I bought was chosen by the consultant and I hated it on the dresser! I knew it was for me though when I couldn’t stop looking at myself in the mirror and started comparing every other dress to it!

I think for what you are interested in, the designer Casablanca may be a really good fit!  They have a lot of more traditional looking dresses with lace and some beading in the shape you are looking for, and most are under or around 1000 dollars!

Another tip is to look on bestbridalprices.com.  You can search through all the dresses by price and style to narrow it down

Post # 10
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I actually started out my search on the used wedding dress sites. It was a great because I could see what they looked liked on actual brides (well a lot of them anyway). I started out my search with newest listings first and as I found silhouettes and designers I liked more than others, I started narrowing my searches. Then I went to those designers websites to see what other options were available. 

I had the “this is MY dress” moment from a used listing…went to the designer’s site and saw it on her runway show and absolutely loved it. The seller sent pics of her in the dress so I was able to get a better idea. I went to the shop to try it on and that was it (though I did try on 5 others to be sure). My original intention was to purchase it used, but I was paranoid about something happening to it before I had it in my hands (the bride hadn’t worn it yet so neither of us had any idea of the condition it would be in). So I bit the bullet and paid full price, which seems crazy to some but for me the peace of mind was worth it (plus we are eloping and having a super duper small 15-20 ppl reception at my dad’s house a couple weeks later – we aren’t spending much in actual wedding costs so I don’t feel as bad being spendy with my dress).

With your budget the preowned sites might be a good place to start and also to get more bang for your buck especially if you aren’t finding what you want in a regular retail store. And some women don’t have that aha moment…ultimately wear what makes you feel beautiful ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 11
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yes!! I know what you mean about the sweetheart neckline being up to your armpits.  I bought my dress kind of fast and looking at the pictures I was worried about it but when the dress came in the right size the neckline was perfect and I loved it even more.  Try not to focus on that cause it will work out!! 

I’m sure you’ll find something that makes you feel beautiful.  Good luck!

Post # 12
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I didn’t know my dress was “it” right away, it took me another hour.  But I’m with you, nothing popped out at me and felt like I kept seeing the same style over and over.  I went to 14 stores total. 

Just keep trucking.  Your dress is out there somewhere waiting for you.

Post # 13
37 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

I never got the “bam” with my dress tryouts, but my heart skipped a beat at a few.  I DID get the feeling whenever I tried something else on that “you know… I liked that one at that other bridal shop better…” Then I started calling it by the style name.  So it’s on my very short list.

I don’t think you have to know that the dress is “it”.  Sometimes it sneaks up on you.  Good luck!

Post # 14
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

when i went dress shopping, i had my heart set on one dress i saw on here.  i tried it on and it was okay on me but gorgeous on the hanger.  my friend made me go try on dresses and because i had my heart set on this one dress, i really didn’t have other dresses in mind.  i picked out a few styles from the designers that i knew the store carried but what really helped me find the dress was having an open mind and having a great consultant (i later learned that my consultant was the daughter of a famous medium and she too had some pyschic ability). 

she just kept on bringing out dresses for me to try on.  at shops where i picked out the dresses myself or gave a list of likes and dislikes to the consultant, i didn’t have as much luck.  i would have never picked out a mermaid style dress for myself but when i put on the dress that the consultant had picked out, i sort of strutted out of the dressing room.  i was torn between two dresses that day so i walked out of the store without buying anything.  i kept on thinking about one of the two dresses.  the next day i went to two other shops and although i liked many of the dresses i tried on, i kept comparing them to THE dress.  so i went back when they opened on monday, tried it on again and bought it.

Post # 16
553 posts
Busy bee


Nice resource to find designers you like by searching stye or price and then checking their websites for specific styles before shopping locally or checking out trunk shows in your area.


When I was shopping for a dress, I felt like a poser. I felt like some little girl playing dress up in some great bridal chest with these overly excited attendants decorating me in accessories and bling, while none of the dresses made me comfortable. They might have been lovely, but they weren’t me and I didn’t feel myself in them. I could care less about any of them and asked lots of opinions because I figured I was just not a “wedding dress” sorta gal. Instead, I found my dress and just KNEW when I saw her because she was just me, my style, my vision..hands down! Also, I thought she sold and was completely heart broken, ready to settle on any other dress, because it didn’t matter what I wore anymore since “The One” was gone. Just ask yourself if some other bride bought the dress and it wasn’t available anymore, how would you feel? Would you have regrets? That’s how I knew. I had total regrets that I didn’t act quicker when I thought she was gone and THANK GOODNESS she was still very much available for me to redeem my enthusiasm and claim my rightful dress. Whew…long story short, I didn’t want to feel like a borrowed bride. I wanted to feel like me on my wedding day and in something that looked like a dress I would have designed for myself. Just because it is a wedding dress, doesn’t mean it has to look like everyone else’s. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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