(Closed) Feel like I'm being duped…

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That does seem a little fishy…

For me I would follow the “when in doubt, throw it out” policy and move on. I’m sure it can apply to more than just spoiled food in your fridge.Wink

I’ve never used paypal so I can’t help there…

Hope it’s a good deal and the seller is just strapped for cash and doesn’t mind a lower profit but the stealing pics thing smells of old sardines!

Post # 4
949 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hmm. The copied photos set off my BS alarm. Is there a detail that you could ask her to send you a photo of? Or even ask for a photo of the tag that says the size, as though you’re confirming the tags are on and are legit?

Post # 5
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My only advice is to read the terms and conditions of Paypal. No joke. My fiance sold an iMac for 800 gbp and got screwed for hand delivering it to the guy. Turns out that the guy hacked someone’s account and my fiance lost ALL the money. Paypal didn’t do anything about it because it states in their terms that if you hand deliver it, you don’t get protection from them. So seriously, read the fine print before you make the transaction, AND trust your instincts 🙂

Post # 6
9541 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Using pay pal is a good sign, as you will have some protection. How is it being shipped? If it’s through USPS or Fed-Ex then that’s a good sign. If she says someone is coming to deliver it, it’s definately a scam.

Post # 7
11164 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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@TankGirl:  The copied photos set off my BS alarm.

Agreed. When we sell things we nearly always take original photos to show the condition of the item etc.

I am of the mindset that if you have any doubts don’t do it. You want to have peace of mind with such an important transaction.

Post # 8
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I got my veil on recycled and was fine. I’ve also sold another wedding dress there (when I ended up with 2) and it was equally a positive transavtion. I used stock photos for the dress but did post a couple of the real dress. Can she send you the real dress photos before you pay?

Plus sellers are generally more verified, they sell more and pay a higher fee for listings.

Can you post the link and we can look at it?

Post # 10
47383 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

How long has the dress beeen listed? She may just really want to sell it.

Lowering her shipping price probably doesn’t mean anything. I’m sure she can ship the dress for $35- she was probably charging a bit much before to make a little more profit on that end of the deal.

Here is the link to “plus sellers” It likely means she is a pro- not a bride selling one dress


Just make sure you have everything in writing- the fact that it is an original (designer’s name) dress, not a copy, what alterations have been done, whether or not it has been drycleaned etc. You need the details in writing in case you have to dispute the sale with Paypal.

If you don’t have the dress before the dispute deadline on Paypal, launch the dispute. Don’t accept excuses that the dress is in the mail etc. If you miss that date, you are out of luck.

Post # 11
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It it called Lisa’s or Tran’s Bridal or something like that? I bought a Maggie Sottero from them on ebay and it was brand new (and almost half price) and authentic with certificate. They also showed up on Maggie Sottero’s website as a retailer and I knew it was all legit. Just wondering!

Post # 12
1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ask for more(specific)pictures!

Post # 13
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I bought a dress through preownedweddingdresses, and it was a great experience. It was actually a similiar experience that I offerred a lower price (and it was accepted) and she later quoted a lower shipping after taking it to the post office. We didnt use it, but if you are really worried, PreOwnedWeddingDresses.com recommends escrow.com for payment. This is a great explination. http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com/for-buyers/recommended-payment-methods.html See if she is open to that – it might be telling.

Post # 15
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I went on the site, from what I can see, only pro sellers can have a tab that shows other stuff. How much is the dress?

Post # 16
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You should be protected through PayPal and your CC, but just make sure you get a very clear description of what you’re purchasing. I purchased a jacket once through a website (that was sketch, I should have totally known better) and instead I got in the mail a cheap, $1 tote bag that came from China. Seriously, it said the value was $1 on the customs label!

I opened a claim with PayPal claiming it clearly wasn’t what I ordered (I had the original website and picture to prove what I HAD ordered) so PayPal said I could have my money back, as long as I shipped it back. And I was responsible for the cost of shipping. Well, as it turns out, it was going to cost me $30 just to ship the damn thing back! I spent $100 on this ‘jacket’ so essentially I was only going to get $70 back.

I called PayPal to speak with someone directly; I explained that the customs’ label, as filled out by the SELLER, proved that the item was only worth $1, so I was willing to ‘eat’ the $1 cost and not ship it back, or if I HAD to ship it back, I wanted the seller to pay the cost. The customer service person was really understanding and said that I could just toss the tote (he made me promise I would cause it’s against their policies to allow you to ‘keep’ an item AND give you the money back), and he’d refund me in full. I was really impressed with their customer service!

But bottom line, I had to prove that what I got was NOT what I ordered – so make sure you keep a copy of everything that describes the dress, even if the photos are ‘stock’ photos. 

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