Post # 1
Bees! New here and almost engaged so excited!
So I’ve read weddingbee blogs and posts for years. Since I was 16! 20 now. My bf just turned 18. I’ve been dating my bf for 6 months this weekend. He told me last night he wants to get engaged as soon as he gradutes from a program here where we live. And MARRIED in June of 20 18. It’s automotive program where you are garunteed a job right after you graduate. It’s REALLY good pay! And he’s been doing it since junior year of high school. It’s SUPER close guys!
So my point is, I asked if I could show him rings I wanted. And he said sure. So we look online and see james Allen and kays and I show him what I like. But then he said every time is too expensive… I picked stuff out that was $1500! I thought that was low. So I was sad but asked him his budget. He then said 150-250 max! I feel so confused. So I just go along with it and he literally goes to Wal-Mart .com and pulls up the ugliest rings. I’m so sad and I dunno why he doesn’t think I’m worth more. I need advice. Should I say yes if he still gives me a crappy ring ?
Post # 2
The ring isn’t the important thing? Mine was only about that much but I love it and it’s what it represents that is important x
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
You both are so young. If he’s never had a real job or has worked minimum wage, $1500 is a huge sacrifice (if he even has it saved up!). You can find a lot of beautiful rings in your budget on Etsy and upgrade down the road on an anniversary when you’re established in your careers.
Post # 4
jessiquh : it’s not that you’re not worth it – it’s that you’re (barely) 18 and 20 years old and are probably not yet financially stable. You’ve also only been together 6 months; that’s not a very long time. Don’t rush into anything, and you absolutely can say yes even if he doesn’t propose with your dream ring (or one at all).
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College
I’d say you’re too young. He’s too young. 6 months together is no time at all. You’re still in the honeymoon phase! If after a year, you still feel like you know the best him, and the worst him, that’s when you should start talking marriage. Have a long engagement.
Life is so long – go out and travel, and see all sorts of things, do all sorts of things. You only find your “value” once you’ve seen and tried many, many things.
I thank my lucky stars every day that I didn’t marry my high school boyfriend. EVERY DAY. You regret the things you do – not the things you didn’t do.
Post # 6
He JUST turned 18 and only been dating 6 months? SOunds like you are also a teen? I’d honestly PUMP the breaks…. a lot.
Post # 7
He’s 18. He’s still in high school. I sure as hell couldn’t have spent $1500 on anything at that time in my life.
You don’t really sound mature enough to be getting married. His budget is a reflection of his financial situation, not your worth. That’s such a bizarre line of thinking to have – that you are only worth as much the material things he gives you. The ring is hardly the most important thing about an engagement. You don’t even need a ring at all. And you can always upgrade later when you are in a better financial position if you want.
But there are plenty of rings you can find in his budget that aren’t ugly. Etsy has thousands of options.
Post # 8
Don’t get married at 18 after 6 months and then you don’t have to worry about a crappy ring.
Post # 9
I’m almost 30, have a husband with a good job (doctor), was with him for around 7 years before getting engaged and don’t have a super expensive ring (my whole set cost about $700). Anything over $1000 seemed too much for a ring. We picked it together, I adore it and it’s symbolism means more than anything. A ring isn’t important.
You are young, he doesn’t even have a job yet, you haven’t been together that long. Cut him some slack! A ring isn’t the be all and end all. Don’t let it determine your self worth!
Post # 10
Uh oh… *grabs the popcorn*
Post # 11
You are very, very young. I would suggest slowing down and focusing on your own education and career. And, most importantly, do not ever let your worth hinge on other people’s actions, much less what they do or do not buy for you.
Post # 12
What in the literal ferk is going on?
Post # 13
Maybe he is looking at $150 rings because he is a teenager ?
Post # 14
Ok guys. I said I’m 20! And why does age matter cause all my gfs are married and have GORGEOUS rings. My point is why you think walmart is ok? It’s ugly. And I said he would have a good paying job this June….. Negative ppl
Post # 15
jessiquh : you are asking for opinions. 20 is very young… and he is 18! Yikes. Age does matter and 6 months is a very short time to date.