(Closed) Feel like I'm not worth it.

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 61
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Newbee

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jessiquh :  because a boy if age 18 has NO IDEA about rings and diamonds and worth..and he thinks walmart rings are if same quality..so to him there’s no difference..HE is not the one wearing it….so if he doesn’t “understand” your taste NOW I guarantee..he won’t understand much of ANYTHING going forward…men mature slower than women do. ..so you’re going to run into.similar issues regarding many things…it’s not negatuvity..it’s the REALITY…it’s small 43 and my bf is 34 and thinks 1000 is expensive..and I felt like you did a few months ago..men just don’t change..

Why don’t u ask him if you can get a 250 ring now..and upgrade to 1500 next june..

Beware if u want a nice wedding.he.may not wanna spend much there either..

Good luck 

 

 

P.s..u should absolutely wait a few years before . marrying 

Post # 63
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Bumble bee

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bbpear74 :  The boyfriend might not have 1500 now or next June. He’s just finishing highschool. I don’t know anyone that age who could spend a month or more of rent on a ring because right out of highschool no one has savings yet. He’s actually being more mature than she is by saying that he’ll spend only 250 on a ring.

If she doesn’t like the rings at walmart (and there are plenty that are nice, so it doesn’t have to be ugly) she can find a different ring from etsy or somewhere else that is within his budget. But honestly, no diamond is worth going into debt. And her boyfriend is telling her that he doesn’t have 1500.

Post # 64
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Bee Keeper

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jessiquh :  He’s 18 years old….where are you thinking he’s getting money for 1500 from???

Post # 66
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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bbpear74 :  Because that’s a complete waste of $250? 

Post # 67
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Sugar Beekeeper

I wouldn’t be surprised if we never hear from OP again . I feel suspicious ….

Post # 69
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Bumble bee

Girl, you’re marrying a teenager?! 

Post # 70
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I haven’t read any more replies but he might have a good job soon but it takes a while to save money like that. That’s quite a bit of money. He’s just starting a proper job, is barely an adult.

You’ve been together 6 months. That’s very fast. Slow down! Stop worrying about a ring. A marriage isn’t defined by how pretty or expensive a ring is. I think a lot of people get caught up in having an expensive ring they can show off. Trust me, no one will care as much about your ring as you. A handful of people have asked to see my ring in the time I’ve been engaged and married. Couldn’t care less, I stare at it daily and love it, that’s what matters! 

Please think about it! What would be the harm in waiting a few years? Save some money, learn more about each other, go on some trips, let him get settled into a job. You’re young and there is so much time! 

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Is this a joke post?

Post # 72
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

Neither of you would even be able to drink at your own wedding. SLOW DOWN. Getting married isn’t a competition. He’s still a baby!

Do you even have a decent job? Are you in school? How can you afford a wedding, honeymoon, home/rent?

Have you lived together yet? Or do you both still live with your parents?

So what’s the plan here? Marry a teenager and move into his mom’s basement?

Post # 73
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Helper bee

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TinderBoxx :  ikr? My 18 yr old son came home from his summer job last night excited because his paycheck was almost $200!  And he wanted to get (another) pair of shoes! Yayyy!! (Absolutely nowhere near ready for marriage) Not even close. 🤔

Post # 74
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Sansa85 :  😂 and yet something tells me you’re quite happy:-) loved that you proposed and you planned really well to keep in budget to take care of your family first- that’s real love🙌🏽

OP, bottom line is if you can’t even dialogue about how to spend on what you can spend on a ring so that you can financially plan your future and lives, you’re not ready. And that’s okay.

when you do feel like you can speak with him, keep in mind that financially planning together is a good indicator of working well together at real life, so it’s a lot more significant than the cost of the ring.

that said, there are a lot of ways to get a pretty ring at affordable price. I loved PP idea of a band you can keep and stack later but also the lab sapphire idea for a princiess di ring you could move to RH later. 

Post # 75
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Bee Keeper

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mrsbbee :  You have to love kids 😀 and yes I think this is a post by some dreamy eyed teen.

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