Post # 1
Not only are almost all of my relatives divorced but with 4 months to go until my own wedding I just found out an acquaintance who appeared to have a very solid marriage is getting divorced. I don’t know the details but it makes me sad.
I seriously feel like I’m surrounded by break-ups and divorce lately. Maybe I’m just noticing them more because my own wedding is just around the corner?
I know that you NEVER know what is happening with someones marriage or what’s happening behind closed doors. But it still makes me feel sad and a little hopeless sometimes (even though I feel like I have a fantastic relationship and can’t wait to marry my FI).
OK, that’s my downer post for the day…
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I know- part of the reason I ruled September out as a wedding month, is because my parents and brother both got married that month, and are now divorced.
There’s a lot you can learn from someone else’s failed marriage- I learned from both family divorces a lot about how to talk to you partner/work out your issues (or should I say, how NOT to!)
Post # 4
I feel the same way, and it is really sad/depressing/worrisome. But, I just out my faith in my Fiance and God and hope I am not one of the stats. =(
Post # 5
Aw I totally understand 🙁 It really sucks.
But just have faith in your relationship. If you and your Fiance both want this marriage to last and actively work at it throughout your marriage, you’ll make it work. People tend to forget that love takes work and I think that accounts for a good deal of divorces. Of course there are things where people grow apart, abuse, alcoholism, etc. but I’ve met a lot of people who have the attitude that divorce is their safety net in case things don’t work out, and most people I know who got divorced got married for the wrong reasons in the first place (parents expect me to, it’s just what people do, if we get married things will get better, I’m pregnant with his baby and don’t really like him but I want my kid to have a father). If your foundation is solid and you work on it, I think the risk of divorce is much much lower.
Post # 6
I’m not sure how old you are, but I’m noticing this more and more lately, too. A friend of mine just told me this morning that her husband left her last night. We went to their wedding less than 2 years ago and they seemed so happy.
I have a lot of friends who are already on marriage #2 because #1 didn’t work out for whatever reason and so far I’ve been attributing it to age (I just turned 30).
Post # 7
@Juliepants: I have been hoping it is the age thing too. It seems like about 50 % of our friends (mostly in the 28-36 year old bracket) are getting divorced or are recently divorced. This is my first marriage, but my DHs second. I feel like of the people I know who are getting divorced they were rushed in to marriage or they were very very young and in an unstable place in thier lives, now that they are older and more stable and more independant I guess they feel okay to be free? who knows