(Closed) Feel like no one cares

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

When is the wedding? If it’s still a while out then you have to understand and get used to the fact that NO ONE will be as excited as you are about it yet.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Agreed that their level of interest may be low if the wedding is a long way off. Do keep your chin up ‘Bee. A lot of us have felt similarly in the lead up to the wedding. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

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racoobee :  generally from what I’ve noticed is people in my life/myself included will get much more involved and excited when the pre-wedding events start coming up or when the wedding is close. Like 2-4 months out for wedding and acouple months to the festivities. This could be possibly why some don’t want a long engagement because the engagement phase drags on. I’m not married and not yet engaged, but this is what I’ve noticed. I understand this is such a big day for you. Maybe you could focus on other things? Or just be your own best friend and go experience things. Either way this site is great for everything wedding related. Post away about anything. Talk everyone’s hear off here lol

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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racoobee :  Then the conversation turned to getting a hotel nearer our venue if I was going to be with them, and they seem to be begrudging against that. I said this is my big day, it’s only going to happen once so if it’s easier…why not? They’re not contributing to the wedding, so it would be just that one expense.

What do you mean by this? Are you asking them to pay for a hotel room for you to get ready in? I would likely be against that too. 

The rest…it seems like they’ll talk with you about it when you bring the wedding up, but they’re not bursting at the seams to ask about it? I think that’s pretty normal. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

I kind of understand what you’re feeling but from a different perspective. I am my parent’s only daughter and the first to get married, and they have never experienced an American wedding and so, turned down our food tasting a month ago. Fiance and I just went to it this Friday, and there was so much food to try, and it was ALL SO GOOD! I felt hurt afterwards, because I think they missed an amazing opportunity. They love free food, the location we had it at was a super nice banquet room, and this was an experience they will never have again (unless my brother gets married, which is definitely not any time soon). 

As other posters have said, nobody needs to feel as excited as you are about your wedding. I say you just ignore it and focus on planning and whatever you have to do. Enjoy it yourself or with your Fiance. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - Emerald at Queensridge

Were they excited about your engagement? I’m wondering if maybe they don’t like your Fiance and don’t approve of you two getting married but won’t come out and say it. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Could it be that perhaps you are picturing a movie-like moment? I know when I got engaged I dreaded people would react the way people react on movies (all jumping and screaming with excitement). Fortunately, real life isn’t like that and my family reacted with some excitement but overall very calm. I believe it also had to do with the fact that I had already been with my partner for a long time (so marriage wasn’t that much of a surprise) and that my family is not big on celebrations.

If your mom and sisters are happy to listen to you and ask questions, I would take that for that they are excited but just aren’t big celebraters. Perhaps as the wedding approches, as pp’s mentioned, their excitement will burst and the real party will began.

I also agree that you shouldn’t expect them to pay for a hotel room just so you can get ready. You can suggest the idea or see if anyone offers it as a solution, but never-never-never expect nor complain over it. You might feel it is a small investment, but perhaps they are saving money or aren’t able to commit to it. Also, if your house is less than an hour away from the venue…I would agree that it doesn’t seem neccesary for you to rent a room just for half a day. How about renting a room with your partner and spending your wedding night there?

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