- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2019
I considered making an anonymous account for this post but didn’t see the point since I posted about a similar issue several months ago.
Fiance never initiates, I do every chance I get. He turns me down often, and rarely when I mention it ahead of time that maybe we should get busy does he agree. I worry he will change his mind.
So when the other day I brought it up, he wanted to tonight too, and we agreed no backing out, etc. We both wanted it, or so I thought.
Well I am staying over at his place, yes he lives with his parents but their room is far away from his, and we have done it several times here before. I should have expected this, but he said a few minutes ago that he was going to sleep. I mentioned the sex thing, he said ‘oh we can do it tomorrow.’
Right, BS. We do it even less in the mornings than we do at night, and we have sex at night anywhere from every 2/3 weeks to every 5/6 weeks. Me initiating every time.
He also never goes down on me, although that is kind of a separate issue, unless I ask and then only for a minute or so.
I have talked to him about both issues several times. He says he still feels that way about me, he still wants me sexually, no my girl parts don’t taste bad or smell, he likes doing that to me. Yet never initiates, and only agrees to do it every few weeks, and oral even less.
And it isn’t completely a low sex drive, he jerks off a few times a week.
I feel miserable, want to go home or sleep in the spare room. Help me bees