(Closed) Feel like won't be able to avoid grandparents "gender" disappointment

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Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Until around week 30 of my twin pregnancy we thought we were having a boy and a girl, it’s what we were told at our 18 week ultrasound.  Everyone said “oh how lucky, one of each, that’s the best!”  Then we found out they’d got it wrong and we were having two girls, to which everyone said “oh how lucky, two girls, they get to be sisters and best friends!”

Basically people have the common sense to lie and tell you that whatever you’re having is just what they wanted.  I think nobody in their right mind would hear the sex of their grandchild and say “what a disappointment that is.”  No need to worry ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Babies do not disapoint. You’ll see.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Hyperventilate :ย  oh dear hahahahahahahaha @ fornicate themselves

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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jennmariee :  You would be surprised. Did a bee not say that when they saw their baby at birth, her husband was so disappointed they did not speak for hour afterwards.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Just to add that here is a huge plus to your sitution that you maybe haven’t considered. One of the sets of grandparents are going to be so thrilled they will be dancing down the lawn for 3 months!  Whatever happens you make someone’s lifelong dream come true! So it’s not that bad.

The other grandparents will love their grandchild regardless. And just remember one other thing- they may have grandchilren already but this is their first from you two as a couple, so the baby will look different, be raised differently and represent a different dymanic for them. So actually it IS something ‘new’.

And maybe in the meantime other siblings may produce the “wonderchild!” ๐Ÿ˜‰

 

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

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Brielle :  gnder is a social construct

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly, you have no control over the situation so it’s not something you need to worry about! Grandparents love their grandchildren-no matter what! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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scipioblack :  I kinda empathize bee. When you have a girl, throw it back in his face that it was his genetic fault for having a girl. Because it is! 

Post # 24
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

At the end of the day their feelings are their problems. There is literally nothing you can do about it, so why stress?

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I just hate it when anyone is disappointed with a baby that is healthy, on account of its gender. 

I know of a couple, where the mother apologized to her husband in the delivery room for having a girl, when his father strongly wanted a boy. 

Disgusting.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Your IL’s dissapointment is their problem, don’t make it yours.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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Buymymixtape :  Then you MUST have fraternal twins. 1 of each gender. There’s just no other solution!! ๐Ÿ˜‚ 

On a serious note, just have a kid, they will all love it regardless of their genitals. I know some may be happier that others depending on the gender but they will all be happy. And it’s not like it’s your job to give them a grankids of a particular gender, and it’s not like you have much control over that either.๐Ÿ˜•

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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DanaWeddingGuest :  Why should she apologize?!?! It’s the sperm that “decids” the gender.. so its HIS “fault”

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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favoredone :  Eww. That falls into the “not in their right mind” category.

Unless the baby was born an ethnicity that made his paternity categorically impossible, in which case I can see being miffed.

Post # 30
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

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eponee :  That may be a concept to which you subscribe based upon what you have been taught and how your world view has been shaped, and I can certainly understand that. However, I and many others adhere to a much different world view and would have to disagree. 

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