(Closed) Feel like won't be able to avoid grandparents "gender" disappointment

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 31
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I’m pregnant with baby #1. I just had my 20 week ultrasound. Even though DH and I agreed we were ‘team green’, the technician slipped and called my baby “she” a few times…so I outright asked her (because the curiosity was now getting to me) and she sheepishly confirmed that YES, she thinks I am having a girl. DH and I agreed to not tell anyone and pretend we are still “team green” because I personally know FOUR people where they got the gender wrong at the ultrasound…which is WHY I didn’t want to know in the first place!


EVERYONE (including me and DH to be honest) were hoping for a boy. The reason being is as it stands the only men in DH’s family who can pass on the last name are DH and Brother-In-Law. DH/BIL’s grandfather is very old and ill, and it is his DREAM to meet the baby boy that will garuntee the family name doesn’t die out….and the whole family wants this FOR him…if that makes any sense. YES I am aware how masogynistic this is, but the old man is ‘from a different time’ so we overlook it. Also, he LOVES his great-grand daughter (my niece) just as much as he would love a boy baby.

Brother-In-Law has my niece, and because of my SIL’s health issues it is starting to look like there may not be a baby #2 for them…at least not while DH/BIL’s grandfather is still alive. So it was kind of coming down to me and DH to fullfill his wish. So yes, if the technician is correct there WILL be some gender dissapointment with the family…but once they see my beautiful baby it shouldn’t matter!

I wouldn’t worry about your family being dissapointed. At the end of the day…all they REALLY want is a happy and healthy baby!

Post # 32
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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Buymymixtape :  Believe me, there will be no disappointment. Grandparents are obsessed with their grandchildren. Bottom line. They will spoil your LO regardless.

Post # 33
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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Buymymixtape :  When I was pregnant with DS (we were team green) both my Mom and Mother-In-Law were dyyyying for a girl and both of them had “the feeling” that we were having a girl (Though Mother-In-Law denys it now) but they are both utterly in love with DS.. Hope that makes you feel better! 

Post # 34
26 posts
  • Wedding: October 2017

I think we might be soul sisters OP. I have 2 younger sisters, Fiance has 2 younger brothers and we will more likely than not produce the first grandchild on both sides one day. My parents both always wanted a boy, his mom always wanted a girl. I’m pretty sure his dad was pretty stoked for 3 boys, because he has no clue about girls. Lol. Future Mother-In-Law had some serious baby rabies though, so she’ll probably just annoy the hell out of me either way. But I have this super, super strong feeling that my first child will be a son and I can tell you that he will have my daddy wrapped around his finger the moment he’s born, but that’s probably true of a girl too because Daddy is a sucker for babies. Lol. 

If anyone is disappointed with the gender one day, that’s a them problem and I would pity them for their small minded pettiness. 

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