(Closed) Feel like you are wasting money?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
Member
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Oh yeah!! Hence the DW – we paid for travel/vacation, but not for a wedding… And, whenever I look at my rings, I think of all the good times and travel that we’re doing, that we could not have done if we had chosen a more “traditional” path…

Like seriously, we made a concsious choice not to spend too much on wedding related stuff and use our money to have a blast as a couple before having babies and saving for starting our lives together, and for us, it’s so worth it.

Post # 4
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Try looking into some local hair salons that do makeup. I’m not getting a “makeup artist”, instead I’m having a girl at the local salon do my makeup. She’s professionally trained & I’m sure will do a wonderful job, for $40.

Post # 5
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

thats exactly why we are doign a DW to Jamaica. We pay for our travel and hotel, a small wedding package with the resort and its done. I dont have to worry about anything. I just tell them my colors and they set up everything in those colors. I work full time and go to school full time, so I dont have time to plan a big DIY wedding like I wish I could.

We also bought a house last year, so things are tight and we are the only ones paying for or contributing our wedding.

I just cant fathom (no offense ladies!) spending 20-30k on a wedding. Id rather put it into my house or start a family. I dont want to go into a marriage in debt.

Post # 6
Hostess
14026 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I know what you mean. Attach the word “wedding” to something and it automatically inflates the price. I guess you just have to figure out what’s “worth it” and where you can scrimp…something we are all dealing with too. 🙂

Post # 7
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1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

MrsCox; great minds think alike!

Post # 8
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612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah I’m just having my hair lady do my makeup for an addition $15 on top of the hairdo. When I read about airbrushing and professional foundation I get confused. I’ve never worn foundation in my life and I seriously hope I don’t have to on my wedding.

Post # 9
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I do!  FI’s parents are paying for most of it… but it makes me sick when I think of spending $150 for a bouquet etc… it makes me sick when I think of the amount of money FI’s parents have agreed to spend… and it’s not even MY money!  FI says I am too practical. 🙂

Post # 11
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are spending money on things that are going to reduce our stress the weekend of the wedding.  I don’t feel bad about this, because I know it will make a difference in my (and my Mom’s) mood and stress level during our wedding day (and day before). 

For example, I had planned on DIY flowers, but the more we thought about the more we didn’t want to stress over it that weekend.  Luckily, we found that one of our grocery stores does bouquets and arrangements for half the price of a traditional florist. 

Wedding make-up… I plan on getting it done… but that’s to help me feel bridal and for long-lasting pictures (I also have a higher budget than you).  Again… if it will stress you out to do your own or you won’t feel right not getting it done, then get it done.  Maybe you could ask around to your friends or family whether someone is good at make-up.  This may be one of those things that you’ll feel “bridal” as long as somone else does it (rather than yourself).

 

 

Post # 12
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve found myself “entranced” by the all the possibilities in wedding planning sometimes, but at the end of the day, I remind myself to take a step back, really evaluate what is truly important to me and my FI.

I think as long as you pick things or make decisions that make you happy, they are not a waste. The total cost of the whole day can seem overwhelming (ahhh!) but it’s not money thrown into the wind.

Post # 14
Member
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@Curlysue:

I meant to say… ask if one of your friends or family could do your make-up.  At my friend’s wedding, one of my fellow bridesmaids did my mascara for me… just that little bit of “extra” make-up made me feel as if I had been completely done up.  Of course, my every day make-up is very simple… so small changes go a long way.

 

 

Post # 15
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398 posts
Helper bee

We are in the very early stages of planning.  I knew our budget was going to pretty small which is fine since we are only have 25 guests and not a lot of the extra stuff.

For the heck of it I started an excel budget worksheet.  I started plugging in the numbers I knew and I started seeing my budget decreasing as I put makeup cost and bouquet cost.   I just can’t justify it.

I will have lots of time to practice doing my make-up and testing it out.  Plus I don’t think my time schedule will really allow me to have someone do it. 

I will be doing my own decorating and setting up.  I really don’t want to have my make-up done before that and risk ruining it with sweating.  I won’t have much time between decorating and trying to get myself ready.  I’ll probably have my hair done in the morning and just put a scarf over it to help protect it.

As far as my bouquet, I used to make them for friends.  I feel pretty comfortable with doing one from silk flowers to save cost.

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