- 6 years ago
Im really sorry this is long but please read it if you can. well over a year ago me and my boyfriend went ring shopping, he kept hinting he was going to propose and was waiting for a certain date to pass and then he would. He made out like he was about to ask my dad, buy the ring, and had the proposal all planned out. So as you can imagine, that got my hopes up!
18 months later.. no ring, no progression. He hasn’t even asked my dad. Now I understand why he hasnt done it, because he has just started his own business and is self employed, and that takes a while to become financially stable. But.. I feel really confused because he keeps hinting towards a proposal, and again nothing happens. Then all of a sudden he tells me he wants to marry me by december. this year. we arnt even engaged yet! So im thinking, ok, he’ll probably propose pretty soon.
Theres also an event upcoming we have both said we would love to be engaged by then, it means alot to us and is also easier to let everyone know we are engaged as all our friends will already be there etc. But then he says, he wants our families to meet properly first.. Ok. I get why, thats a nice touch and everything, even though they pretty much all know eachother anyway except my dad. So we arrange the date well before this ‘event’ but none of his family can make it to a get together until the day of the event. So that knocks that proposal out of the window too.Also, he then asked me questions which made it obvious he couldnt even remember what ring i wanted.. so he definately hasnt bought one!
Stupidly, I brought this up, and it got into a complete mess. I made it sound like I WANT A PROPOSAL NOW, WHERE IS MY RING. Like some spoilt child. which was completely not how that was meant to go.. I was actually just trying to express my confusion and that i was kind of upset with all the false hope and things getting in the way all the time so we cant get engaged, and I wanted to know if he was getting cold feet and felt too pressured. Now i feel completely stupid, but I feel so gutted that this guy who I love, who was so romantic at the beginning, seems to have lost all romance and not even planned the proposal, no date, no ring, no slight idea of when, and he is letting anything and everything push it further away :(Feel like i have totally knocked the romance out of it all now and dont know what I should do.Its not that i have a time limit, its the false hope that has been making me emotionally muddled.
Have I been a complete, spoilt idiot?!