- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Does anyone else feel out of control with budget? We originally started with a budget of about 10k and then my parents offered to pitch in a little too so we increased the budget to 14k. We don’t have any debt and don’t want to have any or need to cash any long term savings in for a wedding. Our whole budget is based around what we thought we would be able to save between January and the wedding. I feel like I’ve been trying to save money by cutting things (no favors, small budget for rings, emailing Save-The-Date Cards and handing out as many invitation I can in person to save on postage) but there are certain things we really want such as good food and alcohol for the guests because some of them are coming from very far away (all across US and Canada and Asia). But I feel like the budget keeps growing in a way that is completely out of control.
I contacted 4 caterers in the area (it’s a small town and there aren’t a lot of options). I only heard back from 1 of them within a month. I met with the first guy and he gave me a quote for $40 a person but didn’t specify anything that was included. When I emailed him back to specify what was included, he never emailed me again. In the meantime I had made the budget with the quote from this guy. Then another person got back to me and met with me. He gave me a quote for $55 a person, which threw me over budget by $1200. Since then, I haven’t heard back from the first guy (in over 3 months!) even though I’ve tried to contact him again.
Then, the guestlist keeps growing. Our expected 80 person wedding has turned into a 100 person wedding because my parents and fiance keep inviting more people. Which means we no longer fit inside our venue and will have to rent a tent to put outside because the venue so we can fit everyone. That increases our budget by another $900. I feel like I’m spending thousands more than we had planned on but it’s completely out of my hands!
Between having to go with more expensive catering than I was expecting and having to account for the extra guests- we have increased our budget by over 3k without doing anything! Blargh! I know it’s not a lot of money with considering all the money we make and spend in our lives but I really hate going over what I’ve budgeted. If we go over budget, we can find the money but I don’t like to spend more than I planned.
It doesn’t help that anything I talk to anyone about the budget they always say- “It’s one day” , “You only get to do this once in your life” etc etc. I have tried so hard to not get into the trap of spending more because it’s a wedding but I feel ike I’ve been sucked in.
Does anyone have any suggestions to keep costs down without compromising on food quality? I want everyone to feel satisfied. I would be totally down with doing like food truck or whatever but unfortunately it’s not an option in this rural area. I suppose we could do something like a BBQ but I feel like since people are spending so much to come to the wedding, the least I can do is give them a decent sit down meal. Should I just swallow the cost?
What else would you bees suggest skimping on? I’ve starred what has already been paid for or had a deposit/contract. Here is my budget By The Way:
*Bed and Breakfast rental (venue for weekend and 6 rooms for 2 nights) $3100
*Linen/tableware/glassware rental $900
*Tent Rental $900
*Chairs and Tables $450
Save on Crafts (candles, dried flowers, lights) $225
Amazon (cake topper) $25
Groupon (for Vistaprint) $17
Vistaprint (printing everything) $76
Envelopemall (extra paper and envelopes) $65
*Dress and accessories (already bought as a gift)
Rings (total) $600
Suit rental $150
*Ceremony Officiant $150
Rehearsal Dinner $400
Wine and beer $1000
Non alcoholic drinks $200
*Marriage license $140
Plastic plates, cups, silverware for cake and hor d’oeuvres $40