(Closed) Feel so out of control on budget.

posted 8 years ago in Money
  • poll: What would you suggest doing?

    Cut the food budget by serving cheaper food.

    Suck it up and eat the extra cost (literally).

    Skimp in another way (please specify below):

  • Post # 18
    Member
    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2001

    Is there a farmers market close by? You could save on your flowers that way. I’m getting all of my flowers at the farmers market for around $200. If you have a green thumb you could plant your own in your yard and cut them for the wedding 🙂 Good luck

    Post # 19
    Member
    293 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I feel that way sometimes too! We are having all fake flowers, I wanted really pretty centerpieces but real flowers was going to send my parents into bankruptcy lol. But I agree with PP that contacting a caterer a little further away will definately help you find a better deal.  A lot of  caterers are willing to travel if it means they get business, so definately look into that.

     

    I also had to deal with “extra” people being invited and our wedding was about to be a 400 person affair rather than the 250 we planned. But definately put your foot down, you don’t want to be in debt because more people got invited to your wedding than planned.

     

    Good luck!

    Post # 20
    Member
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    $15 dollars for 3 hor d’oeuvres per person?? That’s insanity!!! Get rid of the hor d’oeuvres, they are not necessary. To save money we pushed our ceremony and reception time closer together so we could go straight into dinner. It’s a total waste of money in my opinion. I would also cutback the guest list to your original number of guests. Your parents and Fiance can’t just go around inviting people. This will avoid the tent rental, other rental items, delivery and setup. Good luck with all this!! 

    Post # 21
    Member
    933 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    When additional invitees are suggested, can you say, “That will cost us $40 more for food?”  What’s the response you get? I’m just confused because you say the guests are being paid for, so how does it affect your budgeting?  Also I wish you could invite more of your own friends if you want to, and it sounds like you could if your parents guests were paid for.

    Sometimes rural is more expensive than urban because there is no competition to keep the prices down, and there are expenses like gas & delivery fees that go up in a rural area.  Also I think I don’t consider Chautauqua the most rural place, so I’m not sure how the location is affecting the price.

    I don’t see a star next to food, so does that mean you haven’t found a caterer yet? Did the bed & breakfast suggest anyone?  I just had a fun idea that you could have them cater and do a breakfast/brunch wedding.

    $15 for 3 hors d’ouvres does sound high. Can you choose a more cost-effective menu for cocktail hour? Like maybe have several platters of different foods (cheese, fruit, veggie, pita chips & dip, salmon & cream cheese, etc.) that people could walk around and select from, instead of those passed h’ds which are expensive partly because of the labor and all those tiny dishes.

    Did you calculate the percentage of your guestlist that you think will actually come? I read this formula somewhere that to estimate the attendance you do: (100% * # guaranteed guests) + (90% * # local guests) + ( 65% * # out of town guests)

    Since you’re having so many out of town guests, maybe you will end up not needing the tent after all?

    Okay sorry I jumped around so much – it is definitely my bedtime. 

    Post # 22
    Hostess
    8574 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I would consider doing your own buffet or pasta bar. We are catering in fazoli’s for pretty cheap, we’re getting TONS of food for about $800 [enough for everyone to eat everything, we probably won’t order quite that much, but it’s a super good deal].

    Also, if you are on a budget, I would suggest using china-look plasticware & silver-look cutlery. They LOOK very much like the real thing but are SOOO much cheaper.

    You could also save a couple hundred by getting your bouquets from samsclub.. an 11 piece bridal package is just under $300.

    Post # 23
    Member
    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My Fiance and I don’t make very much money but we are so excited about our wedding and here is what I have realized: I spent way, way more in the last year than my wedding budget and here’s what I have to say about it: What do I have to show for it? Your wedding will be with you FOREVER. You could be showing pics of your wedding to your great grand children, you will always, always, always have your wedding. So, if you feel the same way I do (What do i have to show for spending the same amount of money?) then maybe its worth it to up the cost and make it work, if its technically possible.

     

    Post # 24
    Member
    1238 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    i agree with

    View original reply
    @Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  cut out the hor d’oeuvres (thats $1200) and if possible dont invite the last few guests, unless they have been told they are coming, which gets rid of the tent for $900 & extra food & drink. Reduce the flowers, can you buy linens for cheaper then renting? 

    Post # 26
    Member
    855 posts
    Busy bee

    We’re serving our cake as dessert so have cut a few costs there. And we were also thinking at one point of just having a main and dessert (no starter) but canapes instead. That way it still felt like there was a lot, but we’d cut back.

    Also, we’re having a cheese & meat evening buffet for 1/2 the number of guests, and getting cakes made for the other half! the cakes are much cheaper (by £300!) so there will look like variety but without the price tag!

    Post # 27
    Member
    855 posts
    Busy bee

    And I’ve just realised – bed & breakfast is a huge chunk! Why are you spending THAT much? can you not stay anywhere cheaper? why are YOU paying for all six rooms?! That’s soooooo much money for something that is, essentially, not part of your wedding.

    Post # 28
    Member
    2285 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    You can definitely cut your food budget. Try a restaurant that caters instead of a wedding caterer. Or do chepaer meats like chicken. Or you can even do a heavy hors’doeurve reception and do it cocktail style instead of dinner style. Your linen/glassware rental seems really high. How many tables and guests do you have? You can buy linens for as much or even less than it costs to rent them. If you get polyester you can just throw it in the dryer with a wet towel and steam out wrinkles, then iron or steam them a day or two before and hang them up in the closet.

    Post # 29
    Member
    2285 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    View original reply
    @Miss Jackrabbit:  The B&B sounds like her venue for the cermony and reception. I’m doing the exact same thing. Renting a B&B and doing the reception in a tent in the yard. When you do that you get all of the B&B rooms included in the price. That means you don’t have to rent a wedding night hotel room, and you can rent the rooms to your guests or have rooms for guests who otherwise wouldn’t be able to afford to come.

    My Victorian B&B rental with 3 rooms sleeping 6 is $3,400 for the entire weekend plus tent, tables, and chairs. So I think you’re getting a good deal with the venue.

    Post # 30
    Member
    855 posts
    Busy bee

    View original reply
    @michiru4ever:  wow. that is a huge amount of money for just renting a venue. especially if it then charges extra for chairs and tables.

    Also 

    View original reply
    @grapeslice are the caterers not throwing in glassware and linen? they really should….

    $5,350 for essentially just a room is a loooot of money… 

    Post # 31
    Member
    2285 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    View original reply
    @Miss Jackrabbit:  Not everyone wants to get married in a cookie cutter hotel ballroom. In my experience $5,000 for the venue for both ceremony and reception is pretty cheap. Most historic venues in my area wanted at least $7,000 and that was without any rooms for guests, or food. If you want an interesting venue then you’re going to pay for it. And most caterers do not “throw in” glassware and linens. Everyone I interviewed charged extra for the rental. You’ll find this stuff out once you get more involved with interviewing vendors. Nothing is cheap or free once the word wedding is attached.

    The topic ‘Feel so out of control on budget.’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors