Post # 1
Kinda long Sorry =/
As i talked about in a post yesterday, FH and i went to a wedding last night, well he was in the wedding. It was one of his best friends. His now wife and i arent in any way friends really and in no way talked about her wedding theme besides telling me that they were going for “vintage”
I’ll also mention that they’ve been engaged for a while now but just decided a couple months ago that they would have the wedding now and then started planning.
I’ve been actively planning since may…I promise I’m getting to my point…
Well, we walked into the reception and it kind of looked like my reception. She has black and white with touches of damask and turquoise. Christmas lights all around. Paper lanterns hung from the ceiling.
Quite a few of the same people who attended her wedding will be attending ours and i dont want any one to think that i “copied” her theme. Do you think I am being silly? Because if I am I would like someone to tell me!
Not to mention, a while back FH said we should play Trans siberian Orchestra during dinner time. Guess what was playing during their dinner..you guessed it, Trans siberian Orchestra.
I’m not mad or anything since i never told her what my theme was and it is just a huge coincidence and I know theres no “dibs” if you will on themes but the similarites are many. and our wedding is less than 5 months away.
I know technically our 2 weddings will be different just for the fact that we are different people and have different personalities and what not but does any one see just the tiniest bit why I’m bummed?
Post # 3
I can definitely understand being bummed – but I don’t think many other people will notice. A lot of guests (excluding those who are planning/recently planned a wedding of their own) don’t remember those sorts of details for very long. Five months between your weddings should be plenty for people to enjoy your wedding with a ‘clean slate’ mindset.
And it’s got to be at least a little fun to see how well everything you’ve been working on can work, how good your wedding will look!
Post # 4
ok thank you. i am just a total nerve case =) iv’e been working so hard on everything. pretty much DIY everything i can..did i mention she DIY everythign as well? any ways, i’ve been trying to calm myself with little details that we will have that she didnt, like more turquoise, different colored lanterns not just white and we will have them all over the place not just above the dance floor, and we will have flowers and they didnt…ah feeling better already =)
Post # 5
no one will notice!!! especially since your wedding is 5 months away! i can understand feeling bummed, but your weddings will still end up very different. no one but recent brides notice most of those details anyway!
Post # 6
If you have a different venue no matter what it will look different even if it is the exact same decor.
On another note NO one will remember the details of her wedding 5 months from now. You really have nothing to worry about.
A guest at my wedding was getting married a week after our wedding and she came up to me to tell me she chose a lot of similar things for her wedding. Honestly, when I went to her wedding it looked nothing like mine!
Just carrying on doing what you are doing and everything will be fine and your wedding will be unique!
Post # 7
I don’t think you should be too bummed….I understand wanting to be different and stand out. I am the very same way! But, it would have been alot worse if you had gone to their wedding and hated how everything turned out looking and then you would have worried forever until your wedding that yours will be looking the same way. It is great you liked it so much. It should give you even more reassurance and happiness. Maybe you could add your own unique detail to some of the things that you will be doing. It will still feel like your own wedding. And it is true that alot of guests won’t remember things. I never remember much about weddings but now that I am getting married I know I will. I am going to a wedding before mine where the bride is having a very very extravagant huge wedding, spending lots of money and I know I will compare alot because mine is going to be on a small budget but it all comes down to being happy that you are marrying the man you love and the man I love won’t be the fiance in that huge, extravagant wedding! Right?…Hope that made you feel better.
Post # 8
thanks guys! i just needed someone to ground me and bring me back to earth on this