Post # 1
Don’t get me wrong, I love my dress and feel beautiful in it. However, I can’t get over the feeling that I’m kind of in a costume. I guess it’s just that I’m not one for fancy dresses (I got my prom dress at a consignment shop for $45 and wore it to 6 different events-if that tells you anything), but I wish that I didn’t feel like I was playing dress-up.
If anybody has suggestions regarding how to get over these feelings, I would greatly appreciate it.
Post # 2
Can you share a pic, either of you in your dress or even your dress on a hanger? How are you accessorizing it?
Post # 3
Different necklace and earrings but that’s about it
Post # 4
Sorry. This is the whole front (minus the crinoline-it will be fuller when i add that)
Post # 5
Following because I took pictures at my last fitting and, in looking back on them, I feel like I look like I’m wearing a “costume.” But, in thinking about it, my dress alterations aren’t finished, and it’s not really like whenever I’m trying it on for the seamstress I’m getting the full effect. On my wedding day I’ll be wearing different jewelry, my hair and makeup will be done, etc. All of these factors kind of contribute to the look feeling more complete, which I think is what is missing in those pictures I’m looking at. I’m only getting glimpses of the full picture, and I can see how that might contribute to feeling like you’re wearing a costume. Maybe this is partly where your issue is stemming from?
Post # 6
I think your dress looks beautiful! I struggled with feeling like I was wearing a costume while dress shopping also. It just never felt like any of the dresses were “me” until I found my dress. I ended up going for something very plain and flowy with no embellishments, tulle, or lace. Have you thought about taking out a layer of poof or doing without the veil or belt?
Post # 7
ctbee818 : not costumey at all! Your dress is so pretty! You look exactly like a bride:-)
Post # 8
smalltownbigworld : It looks very unfinished without the belt. The veil i haven’t decided on yet. I’m having my hair trial in a fee weeks and will decide then.
It’s really not that i don’t love the dress, because i do love it. I think part of the problem too is that i wanted to elope but instead I’m having a whole wedding Because it’s what my fiancee wants. I’m sure I’ll get over it once everything is put together.
Post # 9
hmmm would you be more comfortable in something more simple?
Post # 10
It doesn’t look like a costume at all; you look like a beautiful bride!
Post # 11
ctbee818 : I feel the same way for slightly different reasons – I am usually fastidious about not being overdressed or underdressed for an occasion, so even though it’s ridiculous I can’t shake the feeling that I’ll look over the top, just because obviously no-one else will be wearing a wedding dress…
Post # 12
stop worrying, you look beautiful!
Post # 13
You look beautiful!!! Not like a costume or prom dress at all. You will be stunning on your wedding day 🙂 I have the same feelings at times, but mine stems from a poor self esteem. This is your day and you picked a great dress!! I try to remember that I picked said dress for a reason.
Post # 14
Well…If you think about it, a Wedding is actually a performance: two people are getting married, and all the guests are the as an audience to it. So I think it is normal to feel like you’re wearing a costume 🙂 although in this situation wearing a costome is required.