(Closed) Feeling a bit down

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
5883 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve been married for over a year and 60% we are just happy and living life, 30% of the time we are stupid blissful newlyweds, 9% of the time he is annoying me and 1% of the time we are fighting or he is being a super Mr. Cranky Butt-head Pants. When that happens I still have the thought, “I don’t need to take this sh**. I’m out of here.”

Of course I would never leave him over such silly stuff, but I still have that thought. I’ve even heard of people happily married for decades that have that same thought. So don’t worry, it happens in the best of realtionships.

However, make sure to do a gut check. Are you sure this just normal frustration or is your gut trying to tell you something. Play a thought game and ask yourself, maybe I should leave him. What feelings does it bring up. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

@Shychick:  Your feelings are completely normal… Fiance and I had a long distance relationship for almost 18 months and it was so challenging, we were so exhausted most of the time we would just get snappy and not have the energy to have in depth conversations.

People underestimate how hard it is to continue a serious romantic relationship without the regular physical connection… Not just sex, all the other stuff. The hugs, the touches, the skin on skin contact. It actually strengthens the bond you have with your SO and without it it’s really challenging to convince your brain it’s in a relationship! It’s not releasing the right hormones (the bonding/I want to have your babies hormone that is… Biologically that’s what our bodies want us to do!)

You guys can make it. Just keep talking 🙂

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