(Closed) Feeling a bit insecure about my e-ring…and I don't know if it's justified.

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 76
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Bumble bee

I have a .75, so most people around me have bigger rings. The worst thing you can do is assume people are looking at it thinking it’s small… They prob don’t care, if YOU think it’s small tjays different but don’t use an assumed perception from others, as your excuse.

You chose a 1ct and a cushion… You got what you wanted. Just because a cushion faces up smaller, it’s still 1ct and 1ct is a good size that no one in their right mind woild judge as small. 

Post # 77
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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bikinibaby01:  Your ring is pretty and I would leave it… Ring shrinkage is real, but what helps me is to clean mine daily, the sparkle helps me forget( and I too have 1 carat and I have a large finger), I keep a diamond dazzle stick in my purse.  Also, I do stackable bands and change it up regularly since I have a solitaire, honestly depending on what bands I have on my diamond is showcased more.

Somebody will always have a larger diamond, but just look at yours as what it represents which is love.  Also trust me, once you put your bands on and you are married it won’t be a big an issue.

 

 

Post # 78
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Bumble bee

I didn’t read all the other posts, but I think your ring is beautiful ( mine is similar, but with a round stone). I also didn’t choose a halo for the exact same reason as your Fiance did. if you have a good quality stone, I wouldn’t even think of an upgrade….. it’s perfect as is 🙂

I always like to drool over celebrity jewelry and that always makes mine look a whole lot smaller…. but you know what? I’m never going to be able to drop 100 K or more on a diamond and even if I could, I bet I would still be looking at other celebrities’ rings, just bc I am a jewelry hound. I think you have to be satisfied/ happy with what you have and what it represents. Your ring is genuinely lovely- so stop overthinking, and just enjoy it 🙂

Post # 79
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Honey bee

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Ellicott:  ” Of course we don’t.  There is no ring and this has to be a scammer.  Otherwise, it would’ve been a real photo.  I call bullshit“<br /><br /><br />

Thank you. I’m surprised by how many people are over looking the fact that this is just a random pic off of google images.

Post # 80
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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bikinibaby01:  i totally understand. i am having a very similar issue. especially since being on this site… i know i am going to have to stop with all the ring porn. i just got engaged end of November and i already am thinking about upgrades.

i know i will get crucified for this.. but my ring is a double halo, 1.5 center, .5 setting. the thing is, i have 7.5 fingers and big hands. its a super delicate setting. it sparkles, almost like glitter and its beautiful. i love my ring, but i wish the setting was chunkier and had more metal to it. i had shown my fiance split shank double halos, with some substance to them that were NOT pave…i am not a pave fan. but mine ring is pave. Fiance not a jewlery, diamond, fashion guy. (i have to specifically tell him when he can’t wear sweats otherwise he’ll show up for EVERYTHING in sweats) basically, when he got my ring, he walked into his jewler, said i need a double halo and the first one the jeweler showed him is the one i got. haha. 

the other thing that is making it hard is, before we got engaged, he mentioned to me that his dad offered him his late mother’s diamond. (btw: my fiance mentioned all of this out of the blue at the time) my FI’s mom passed away when he was young so he didn’t remember the ring at all, but apparently his dad told him it was like 3 carats. i am a diamond, bling, bigger-the-better girl. for the the most important C is carat. so when i heard that, my eyes glazed over haha in the end, the diamond was 1.5 carats but a gorgeous stone. but you can see how i was imagining something slightly larger. after the inital exstacy of getting engaged wore off, i had to reprogram my brain into not thinking half my ring was missing. 

so, basically, i feel you. i really do. maybe bulk up your ring with wedding bands. (that’s my plan). or casually, or jokingly, mention an upgrade to your Fiance and see what he says. i have been showing my Fiance rings on wedding bee and dropping the words 5 year upgrade… he doesn’t totally freak but he does laugh & tell me that i am not a Kardashian (i am half Egyptian, btw).  

anyway, just tread lightly, only you know your man. and your man knows you. but i totally empathize. this diamond shrikage thing sucks. good luck! & maybe lay off the ring porn too haha 

Post # 81
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

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Bridey77:  OP’s first sentence acknowledges this though…? “Above is a picture of what my e-ring looks like…it is not an exact photo, but it is taken from google images.”

 

OP: You shouldn’t feel insecure about your ring. 1 carat is plenty. Even though it may face up smaller, it sounds like the quality is there so that should definitely make up for it!

Post # 82
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2016

People care way too much about status….focus on your relationship instead.

Post # 83
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

1 carat is far above average and if it’s a good quality diamond, then screw what other people say.  You do YOU girl. 

Post # 84
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I like that style! Your suffering from shrinkage syndrome lol its real! If you get a halo added or get a larger diamond eventually your going to get shrinkage again. It’s a never ending vicious cycle!

Post # 85
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

And stop comparing your rings to other people’s rings!! Comparison is the thief of joy. There’s always going to be someone that has a bigger diamond. You could always get a blingy wedding band to increase the overall size of your set!

Post # 86
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Buzzing bee

It’s a gorgeous ring!  And there will always be bigger rings out there, but don’t let that stop you from loving your ring.  Your fiance did a wonderful job picking out your ring for you and he went for high quality over quantity, which is worth more, in my opinion.  I love solitaires and there are times when I feel my 1.03 carat round Old European cut diamond is small compared to all of the halos and huge rocks out there, but I absolutely love it because it is beautiful, amazing quality, and so classic. 

Post # 87
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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ashleearielle:  Carat, to me, is the least important C.  Who cares if your diamond is 3 carats if it doesn’t sparkle the way a 1 carat does?  That’s like saying I have 20 friends, but they’re all really shitty people.  I’d rather have 1 GREAT friend.

Post # 88
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

i think ur ring is gorgeous!

 

but if ur really feeling insecure, i’d re-set it to a halo or change it to a RB (i think both will make it look bigger)

 

 

Post # 89
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Helper bee

What should you do? You should sit and think about what an engagement ring means to you.  If it means a symbol of “status” or wealth then consider adjusting it to your likings.  If it is a symbol of commitment and love from your SO then I would suggest trying to find a way of coming to terms and appreciating what you already currently have (which is much larger than the average).

 

 

Post # 90
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

 

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bikinibaby01:  Ok got it! Yes an ideal/excellent cut 1 carat round will definitely look larger

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