Post # 1
I spoke to my mum and she told me she went over my aunties on saturday to meet the new additions and said what a lovely time she had. I just went on facebook and there were photos from the weekend. ALL of the family were invited expect me and my Fiance. This included all 7 of my cousins and their partners and all the little ones. I feel so left out. Why didnt i get an invite. Then my mum told me she told everyone i was in the process of making my invitations to send and told everyone were the wedding will be. i wasnt going to tell anyone until they received the invitations.
I never seem to get invited to anything. I live a bit further away but only an hours drive. They know i wanted to arrange a get together for everyone to meet my Fiance before the wedding. I feel really upset about this.
Post # 3
I’m sorry you feel that way. I can relate. I grew up with my cousins in the same house, and they were like my brothers and sister. I an an only child. I really loved that they were like my family, not just extended family.
Anyway, now we’ve all grown up, and I realized a few year go that I am always excluded from their events, be that Kids birthday parties (I have 3 children I would love to take), major holidays, family get togethers, etc. I don’t know why they do this. I am not a difficult person. I am super friendly and easy going. It sux.
Wow, I totally didn’t mean to make this about me. I just wanted to say, I can relate. Luckily, you have found your perfect match, and you will start your own family with him soon. 🙂
Post # 4
Wow, that really sucks. Did you ask your mother why you weren’t invited? I have a very large extended family, and we always make sure everyone is invited to every event..
Post # 5
@abbie017: Im going to call her late and ask. Alot of my cousins live the same distance as we do. one lives in London and must have taken ages to get their with the Olympic traffic.
I might speak to my cousins husband and ask him why i wasnt invited. hes online now
Post # 6
Actually, sometimes i do feel left out..whenever i see pic or status on fb related to some family gathering (like my aunt’s birthday) i get sad..i know that they got togehter because they all live very close by but i am just 20 min drive away! I know, i do not visit as often as i should..but still!
Post # 7
@ChocolateLime: The distance you live should not be a problem. A family gathering would be a perfect time for your mother to show off her future SIL. They should have asked/invited you and give you the option to decline. Suks big time.!!
Post # 8
Did you ever turn down an invitation or two in the past? I know that when I get busy with school or and can’t hang out with friends when they invite me(my family are all 3hours+ drive away), they eventually stop inviting me to things. Then I have to make the effort to plan things or invite them to do stuff, becuase otherwise they just assume I’m busy.
An alternative reason may be because you’ve never hosted? I know it sounds petty, but if it seems everyone has taken their turn and you haven’t, maybe theres some resentment you haven’t picked up on?
Just a couple of ideas of things that maybe wouldn’t immediately come to mind that may cause this type of situation.