(Closed) Feeling a bit paralyzed with 5 weeks to go…In need of some Encouragement!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hey girl. I’m not there yet, but I’m also 2 months behind you in planning. Go get a massage this weekend or do something to completely take your mind off of the wedding for a bit! Have a wedding-free weekend if possible. I’m sure that will help to re-energize you! Everything will be fine and all the hard stuff will be done and you’ll be enjoying yourself again before you know it!

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m 3 weeks out and totally understand what you mean! At 5 weeks out, there was still so much to do – but a lot of stuff I couldn’t do yet (seating chart, final vendor counts, etc).

My personal suggestion is not just to create a to-do list, but to break it down on a calendar and put specific tasks on specific days. Then just look at what you have to do THAT DAY and do those things, don’t worry about the big picture right now.

I don’t know if that helps. My house looks like a Bed Bath & Beyond, Gift, Cardboard, and Wedding bomb went off in it. Some things you just have to let go.

Post # 8
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9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@SweetMelissa429:  It sounds antithetical but take off this Saturday or Sunday and just do something as a couple.  No wedding talk, no wedding stress, no planning, etc….  It’s St. Paddy’s Day weekend so maybe a little celebration is in order.  Or you can try to get tickets to a local baseball, hockey, or basketball game.  See a movie.  Go on a normal couple’s romantic date and remind yourselves why you are getting married without talking about the wedding.

Post # 9
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am with you!  I am also getting married on April 20.  I made a list of things to do and it’s a ton.  I also have a ton to do at work!  I see how many days left and it freaks me out.

I am just going to try to cross things off my list and make sure I have a plan for the others so I can do this as calmly as possible! 

We can stress together!

Post # 11
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am still three months away from our wedding date but I have experienced some major Wedding Burnout. The most effective strategy I use is assigning a day or two for planning and allowing my other days to become “wedding free”. We have a lot of DIY projects as we are haveing a rustic/farmers market insipred wedding. Every Sunday we ( my Fiance and I) head to our local farmers market for inspiration grab some deliciouse snacks and head home and focus on all the things that can get so overwhelming on my own.

I will admit though that it dosent matter how sleepy I am at the end of any given day the moment my head hits the pillow my mind starts racing about all the little details that I could have forgotten or could be problematic. Is Anyone else losing sleep?

This may sound a little silly but I have two qoutes posted on the fron of my planner.

My favorite is : ” If at the end of the day your married to the one you love everything went perfect”

 

Post # 13
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2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was the same. 

Basically, I just looked at my list, prioritized, did the things first that were a must, and the rest I did only if I had time.   A few things never got done and I was fine with that!  Noone else noticed and I totally forgot about it.   

everything will turn out in the end, it honestly will.

 

one thing that worked for me(regarding paperwork) was I went and took my laptop, planted my butt on a patio, had a couple drinks, and let my creative juices flow – I was able to bang out all my timeslines and itineraries(there was 6), revise my final ceremony(I rewrote it all myself), did my seating plan, all within 2 hours.  then I just sat back and visualized the day from start to finish – including what I wanted to see and where, etc.   i did like a walk through in my head.

 

Post # 14
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484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@SweetMelissa429:  I’m totally feeling the same way as you. Our to do list feels HUGE to me even though they are all minor things. For some reason, they freak me out, and I’m having trouble motivating myself to get anything done. 

I’m scared about how soon it is…. only 3 weeks for me…. I’m terrified I’m going to forget something or run out of time, but I still don’t feel like doing any of the stuff. A lot of what I worry about is out of my control too, like how stuff is going to get set up if I’m not there to direct it, or the weather, or if people will be able to find parking…. and so many other things. I hope I’m not a nervous wreck the day of. 

I so cannot wait for it to be over so we can move on with our lives!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I also have just 5 short weeks to go.. honestly we have everything done that can be done.. just waiting for the last of the RSVPs to come in so I can finalize the seating chart & write out the escort cards.. Even though I know we don’t have much left to do,  I feel like I’m missing something & should be doing something wedding related 24/7.

I’m sorry you feel stressed, but I like the idea of taking that big to-do list & breaking it down to days.. it’ll look less intimating if you only have 3 things to do each day than a ton to do by the 20th.

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