Post # 1
So we all have heard about/have experienced that ugly WALL that brides hit during the wedding planning. Since we’re coming to the home stretch of mine, I thought I had avoided hitting it and was honestly feeling super proud of myself, especially when I’d see posts on here from others about their woes. My apologies to those ladies for my internal smirk of pride because it has now circled around to me! And quite honestly, there really isn’t a legitimate reason for me to feel this way. Everything is coming along great and while there are still many things to be done, it’s nothing we can’t handle in the next 4-5 weeks.
I think I did this to myself when I sat down and wrote out the remaining to-do list. I believe this overwhelmed me to see on paper what I still have left to do and it’s almost like it’s paralyzed me this week. I literally haven’t done anything wedding related all week – aside from making a few purchases from Hobby Lobby for my DIY centerpieces and bouquet. Fiance and I have also had a rough week between the two of us – nothing crazy bad or anything, just good ole relationship stuff – and I think this has trickled into this whole mess also. I’ve just felt super grumpy and unmotivated and irritated and overwhelmed…none of which describe me under normal circumstances, and I’m not PMSing 😉 I swore to myself when this whole planning process began that I would not let myself get super stressed out or become bridezilla and up until now, I feel like I’ve done a really good job of this. My mom actually made the comment the other day about how impressed she was with how calm and easy going I’ve been so far and a few of my vendors have said that I’ve been one of the easiest brides they’ve ever worked with. I want to keep this reputation as a bride Haha! I did invite my best girlfriend, who is also a Bridesmaid or Best Man, over last night and we drank a little wine and gabbed for a bit. It helped a little, but I’m still feeling a bit down in the dumps today…
I’m typically not a woe-is-me or pity party throwing kind of girl, but I just feel like I need a boost and some encouragement. Is anyone else in this place right now, too? Feel free to vent your frustrations here! For those of you who have scaled this wall, any words of wisdom?!
Post # 4
Hey girl. I’m not there yet, but I’m also 2 months behind you in planning. Go get a massage this weekend or do something to completely take your mind off of the wedding for a bit! Have a wedding-free weekend if possible. I’m sure that will help to re-energize you! Everything will be fine and all the hard stuff will be done and you’ll be enjoying yourself again before you know it!
Post # 5
I’m 3 weeks out and totally understand what you mean! At 5 weeks out, there was still so much to do – but a lot of stuff I couldn’t do yet (seating chart, final vendor counts, etc).
My personal suggestion is not just to create a to-do list, but to break it down on a calendar and put specific tasks on specific days. Then just look at what you have to do THAT DAY and do those things, don’t worry about the big picture right now.
I don’t know if that helps. My house looks like a Bed Bath & Beyond, Gift, Cardboard, and Wedding bomb went off in it. Some things you just have to let go.
Post # 6
@phillybride61513: Mmmm a massage sounds heavenly right about now…or maybe a mani-pedi! Good suggestion 🙂
@NAvery: Omg so funny! I would imagine our houses probably look very similar haha! But yeah, it’s the big picture that’s getting me stressed and you’re right…just 1 day at a time is how I need to approach it to keep from pulling my hair out >.< Thanks! 🙂
Post # 7
@SweetMelissa429: Find a living social or groupon deal and make it happen!
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@SweetMelissa429: It sounds antithetical but take off this Saturday or Sunday and just do something as a couple. No wedding talk, no wedding stress, no planning, etc…. It’s St. Paddy’s Day weekend so maybe a little celebration is in order. Or you can try to get tickets to a local baseball, hockey, or basketball game. See a movie. Go on a normal couple’s romantic date and remind yourselves why you are getting married without talking about the wedding.
Post # 9
I am with you! I am also getting married on April 20. I made a list of things to do and it’s a ton. I also have a ton to do at work! I see how many days left and it freaks me out.
I am just going to try to cross things off my list and make sure I have a plan for the others so I can do this as calmly as possible!
We can stress together!
Post # 10
@beachbride1216: Yes to everything you just said!! We are actually taking the day on Sunday and doing some work on our house and I have a 2 movie passes from Christmas that we haven’t used, so I’m thinking this would be a perfect time 🙂
@fuzzle79: Yay date twins!! We’ll get through it! My mom is making next week her full steam ahead wedding week since my dad will be out of town, and I’m hoping that I can get inspired and get a lot checked off. I am definitely going to enjoy our honeymoon after all of this!!
Post # 11
I am still three months away from our wedding date but I have experienced some major Wedding Burnout. The most effective strategy I use is assigning a day or two for planning and allowing my other days to become “wedding free”. We have a lot of DIY projects as we are haveing a rustic/farmers market insipred wedding. Every Sunday we ( my Fiance and I) head to our local farmers market for inspiration grab some deliciouse snacks and head home and focus on all the things that can get so overwhelming on my own.
I will admit though that it dosent matter how sleepy I am at the end of any given day the moment my head hits the pillow my mind starts racing about all the little details that I could have forgotten or could be problematic. Is Anyone else losing sleep?
This may sound a little silly but I have two qoutes posted on the fron of my planner.
My favorite is : ” If at the end of the day your married to the one you love everything went perfect”
Post # 12
Something weird is happening with my reply, but your quote about “If at the end of the day you’re married to the one you love, then it went perfectly” has been my motto from day 1 and I truly believe that it is how I have managed to remain cool, calm and collected up until now! And I totally feel you on losing sleep…either from my mind going a bajillion different directions or waking up from wedding nightmares. It’s hard to shut it off!
Post # 13
I was the same.
Basically, I just looked at my list, prioritized, did the things first that were a must, and the rest I did only if I had time. A few things never got done and I was fine with that! Noone else noticed and I totally forgot about it.
everything will turn out in the end, it honestly will.
one thing that worked for me(regarding paperwork) was I went and took my laptop, planted my butt on a patio, had a couple drinks, and let my creative juices flow – I was able to bang out all my timeslines and itineraries(there was 6), revise my final ceremony(I rewrote it all myself), did my seating plan, all within 2 hours. then I just sat back and visualized the day from start to finish – including what I wanted to see and where, etc. i did like a walk through in my head.
Post # 14
@SweetMelissa429: I’m totally feeling the same way as you. Our to do list feels HUGE to me even though they are all minor things. For some reason, they freak me out, and I’m having trouble motivating myself to get anything done.
I’m scared about how soon it is…. only 3 weeks for me…. I’m terrified I’m going to forget something or run out of time, but I still don’t feel like doing any of the stuff. A lot of what I worry about is out of my control too, like how stuff is going to get set up if I’m not there to direct it, or the weather, or if people will be able to find parking…. and so many other things. I hope I’m not a nervous wreck the day of.
I so cannot wait for it to be over so we can move on with our lives!
Post # 15
I also have just 5 short weeks to go.. honestly we have everything done that can be done.. just waiting for the last of the RSVPs to come in so I can finalize the seating chart & write out the escort cards.. Even though I know we don’t have much left to do, I feel like I’m missing something & should be doing something wedding related 24/7.
I’m sorry you feel stressed, but I like the idea of taking that big to-do list & breaking it down to days.. it’ll look less intimating if you only have 3 things to do each day than a ton to do by the 20th.
Post # 16
@X0JLYNN03: You’re so good getting all your stuff done! While there are definitely things left for us to do, the more I’ve mulled it over today, the more I’ve realized that it really isn’t that much. I just watch the time ticking away and it makes me a little nervy! What deadline did you put for your RSVP’s? We put 3/20 and there are still SO many missing >.< I already had my rant about that a week or so ago haha!