Feeling a little behind with planning… words of advice?

posted 9 months ago in Logistics
Post # 2
1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

missmollybee :  wedding cake tasting i think you could do without him if he is not super particular about cake flavors. Bring a friend or Future Mother-In-Law, or anyone for that matter just to get maybe a second opinion just in case you find out you like a unique flavor. 

 But maybe take a note as to what his opinion would be on out there flavors. Also does your bakery have a website, i would imagine it would list some flavor offerings that you could look over and automatically know your not going to like or might be interested in. 


Post # 4
2732 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Your officiant is literally the most important part of your wedding, so I would find a new one ASAP!

I would just order your grocery store cake now (we didn’t even do a menu tasting and it was great), then make a final decision about flowers before New Years and book a florist. Have you contacted any so far? April is really not far away at all!

Post # 6
1950 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Be careful doing your florals from two separate places. You and your bridesmaids will be in a lot of pictures together and if your bouquets look really different it could throw things off. Can you find a florist to just do all the bouquets for a reasonable price or find a friend to help you with all of them DIY style? I had a friend who DIYed the Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets but bought her own and it did not turn out well. It was super obvious which ones were DIY and to see that hers was done professionally. The pictures turned out even worse because the colors were so off. 

As for the cake, just order it. Pick out something you think everyone will like. 

For the officiant, definitely demand a meeting in the next couple of weeks or ask someone else. You want to make sure they know you! They’re the biggest part of your ceremony! 

Post # 7
6996 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m a wedding vendor, my thoughts…

Just book the cake. If you’re getting it through a grocery store and you’ve had their cake – there’s no need for a tasting. 

The officiant, I’d get on that ASAP. I know plenty of people who book their officiant without meeting them due to distance, but they at least talk to them. Are you getting married in a church? If not, I would start googling “wedding officiant {your location}” and see what comes up. People who make weddings their job are going to be more apt to get back to you than a minister from a church you don’t know or attend. 

Florals – I’d try and find a way to hire a florist who will do all the flowers. DIY sounds great in theory but I’ve DIYed bouquets for a few weddings I’ve had to be in and it’s a nightmare. They are not as easy as you’d think. As a wedding photographer I completely agree with the above poster who said trying to order flowers from two different places and matching them is a recipe for things to look not cohesive. Not to mention your bouquet is likely to look great while your bridesmaids standing next to you won’t have the same polished look. 

Post # 10
664 posts
Busy bee

Regarding florals, florists do more than flowers. They’ll do miscellaneous decor too. If money is the issue, you can talk to your florist about what can be done on your budget. Or if you have an idea of what you want, you can ask them for a proposal. 

I had an idea of what I wanted for my centerpieces and was planning on DIYing. When I talked to my florist about it though, her labor only ended up adding $5 more per table. Totally worth it, I think. 

Post # 11
879 posts
Busy bee

1. Get the cake, it doesn’t matter that much in the grand scheme of things.

2. Book a florist. As PPs mentioned, florists can do much more than just flowers. Plus, it will be very hard to coordinate all the bouquets unless they’re all done by the same person. The hassle is not worth the money you’d save.

3. Find a new officiant. She hasn’t gotten back to you and you haven’t spoken to her at all? I’d be worried about her showing up the day of the wedding. She seems flaky and unreliable.

Post # 12
14919 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s way more on track than we were!  After I booked the venue and photographer, I let everything slide.   I didn’t start reaching out to DJs, cake or florist until about 6-8 weeks before the wedding.  The only thing I think I might worry about there is an officiant.  (We had his aunt, so that was never a concern).

Post # 14
1950 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

missmollybee :  Actually, if you end up DIYing only part of the boquets, go with different flowers, don’t try to match, that will come off even worse. I would just get some quotes, and go to any farmers market in your area. That is who is doing ours, they work out of the farmers market, and she does a great job for half the price. Ask around for flowers on a budget. 

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