Post # 1
Just needed to vent a little. I’m having a hard time as most of my friends now have kids and don’t want to go out anymore. My other really good friends and my bff live over 5 hours away. I’m finding it hard to meet new people (I’ve tried the girls at work – but same thing, they all have families and lives, etc.) but I’m at a loss. My fiance is a police officer so right now with his schedule I spend my weekends alone. I keep telling him we should schedule dinners with some other couples but it never happens because of schedules or other things. Any ideas on what I can do to break me out of this funk? What has worked for you to make new friends?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Maybe you can try signing up for some classes in your area on the weekends, since your fiance isn’t around anyway? I’m not sure what might be available but you could try dance class, sewing or craft at Hobby Lobby or some similar store, or check your local newspaper for upcoming activities and announcements, or maybe your park district if you have one. I think that might be a nice way to meet people, just find something that speaks to your interests. Good luck!
Post # 4
Join some clubs in your area or sign up for some kind of classes on the weekend. For example: A book club, a cooking class, or an art class. Or even workout classes of some sort. You will have to be a little outgoing and be willing to approach / talk to people you don’t know but I think a hobby type of class would really help you to make some new friendships. 🙂
Post # 5
Honestly, I’d get a pet. I am not saying that to be mean. A dog gives you a reason to get out of the house and who knows, maybe it’s a good conversation starter when meeting new people. I have a few people I’ve met at the dog park I now consider great friends.
Post # 6
A tough one really, but try to find other ways to occupy yourself that don’t require other people. Perhaps take up a hobby that will give you something to occupy the times you cannot get out. Sometimes you will have to be alone.
To meet new people, how about barbecue or mixer at your home that you can invite people to. perhaps for a sporting event or birthday that people can bring their kids to. reach out to the old friends who have children and see if you can go for a quick coffee, to restablish friendships.
It is tough, but stick with it. You only need one or two good friends, hopefully you won’t have to wait to long.
Post # 7
Volunteer, join a church (if you’re so inclined), and I second getting a pet!
Post # 8
Thanks ladies. I do have an english bulldog puppy (9 months) that I adore and he’s helped a lot. I take him to the dog park and chat with people there (unfortunatly there aren’t many people my age at the dog park). I also joined crossfit and talk to the girls there. So that helps. I’m just really missing a couple of good girlfriends that I can go have lunch with or a glass of wine.
Post # 9
@sfblondebee: I think a lot of people feel that way, even those of us who haven’t relocated. Meeting people as an adult is hard because we already have our established group of people we’re supposed to be close to. I always feel like I’m hitting on other women when I suggest going from acquaintance from friend. I don’t really have any advice . . . just empathy!
If you already have a pup, I’d keep trying the dog park at different times. The “regular” crowd at my park meets at 4 p.m. every day and noon on the weekends and working full-time, I just cannot make it. And what about fun classes with the dog? I took a “Just Tricks!” class and met a few nice people there . . .
Post # 10
Hi, I completely understand where you coming from, two years ago I moved back to my hometown for work. I was so lonely too. I hung out a lot with my brother, and my best friends had babies and didn’t have the time to go out. I would recommend finding things online, there is this website where they have different soical groups you can join called Meeetup.com.
A lot of the woman there have either moved, or have the friends who got married or had kids and don’t have time to hangout anymore. The groups are all really cool, and you can pick out different ones, a lot of them all female groups who do girl nights out, dinner, bowling, crafting, cooking groups, and even cool activities all over the city. One of my closet friends I meet in that group. It kind of wierd sometimes like dating for friends lol, but its fun and I made a couple of friends from there, if you click with someone don’t be afriad to exchange information and facebooks to hang out outside of meetup. Because the first few months I was meeting lots of cool people but didn’t really make friends until I exchanged my info Good luck!