- 5 years ago
My SO and I have been talking about marriage so the first step, for us anyways, is to get a ring. It’s obviously not going to be a complete surprise because he and I have been looking/shopping together to find what I like. I won’t know when it’s going to happen but I will know what it looks like.
So last week we found out the store we found a ring we love at is going out of business – actually the whole company is. For those who live in Canada it is Ben Moss that we found this ring at. I loved this ring for a couple reasons . . . one how it looks (most important) and two that this particular ring style only came with Canadian mined diamonds as a conflict free ring is important to both of us personally . . . we aren’t taking a stand with it or anything, it’s just our personal choice to not purchase diamonds mined in conflict.
After we found out the store was closing, we looked at our finances to see if we could realistically afford this ring before the store closes (obviously there’s no financing at this point) and then he could hold on to it until he planned to propose and this just isn’t a possibility for us. Then, thanks to this site I stumbled across moissanite stones, which look similar to diamonds.
I was REALLY excited because we searched so many other stores and no one carried anything even close to the style we loved and we were thinking we would have to go custom. We will still have to go custom, but I love the way the platinum/diamond look was in this ring. So I’m not trying to pass it off as a diamond, I just like how it all looks put together.
So I guess my question is this: I fell in love with this ring looks, not the diamond or the price tag, and so did he. If we go with moissanite we can actually afford a much larger center stone than this original ring had because of the price difference. It isn’t about the money . . . it’s about this ring and what it means coming from him and the commitement. But I’m wondering if anyone who went with a moissanite ring feels like people think less of them if they find out it’s not a diamond. I personally don’t care and I know my close family and friends will just be happy that we’re making the commitment but I don’t want to have to feel like anyone is judging me. This is going to be a big, flashy ring (center stone will be 2CT and the band/side stones will be 0.75CTW) and it really suits who I am as a person plus I love that I can get it, conflict free and he is a big nerd, so the fact that it comes from a lab he thinks is the coolest thing ha ha although his first comment was that’s great, but I don’t want to be cheap about this – this is your ring forever.
TL;DR – anyone with a moissanite ring feel they have to justify to anyone why they went the route they did? Or feel like you are selling out? I could get conflict free diamonds, definitely, but since I found out about this alternative I can’t stop thinking about it and it just seems to make sense.