(Closed) Feeling a little defeated…

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’ve been in a similar position recently. I know it’s hard, but keep going, I have just landed my first teaching job after months of job hunting and six interviews, so five rejections before this one.

After feeling that I wasn’t good enough I actually got to the point where I cared, but didn’t care… and went in really relaxed. I am sure that the right job is there for you. I kept telling myself that the other schools weren’t the right palce for me (and in fact, two of them would have been a nightmare).

Keep us updated, I hope the right job finds you soon  and I am sure it will 🙂 

Post # 4
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I had this happen to me when I was out of college. I was out of work for 3 months. Every place wanted this 3-5 years experience but no one would hire me. I applied for 10 different places and didn’t get a single one, whether I was qualified or not. I didn’t even get the interview though.

Something bigger and better did come along and helped me gain the experience of being where I am now, so I am thankful.

Post # 5
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@tropicalfish914:  Sorry that does suck! I’ve had an interview where the interviewer and I were practically braiding each other’s hair by the end and I got a no! It’s sometimes worse when it goes well! It’s hard to stay positive but the right job IS out there for you!!!! It WILL happen!!!!

Post # 6
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@tropicalfish914:  I made a post about this yesterday. My dream job, which I was already planning out in my head, told me that I wasn’t selected because I don’t speak French. They prefered me and my writing, but Mr. French got it instead.

The market sucks and there is no way around that. Qualified people are taking lower level jobs because they have to. I’ve never had a bad interview, and there have been jobs I haven’t gotten. No matter how good your interview is, someone else may have rocked it.

Any little thing can be a deciding factor (I’m a hiring manager, so I know how it goes). My advice? Any time you get a decline, ask why. If it is something you’re doing or a skill set you lack, you need to know before you go to your next interview.

I don’t believe the “everything happens for a reason” stuff and people only ever say that to me when they are trying to make me feel better about a situation I have no control over. All you can is keep your skill set fresh and keep plugging forward until you get something.

I totally get where you’re coming from and I’d be happy to take a look at your resume and provide suggestions if you like 🙂

Post # 7
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@tropicalfish914:  Did you ask her what you could have done differently?  Or why the other person got the job over you?

I agree that it’s frustrating.  I interviewed for a bunch of jobs out of law school and every time I would get called back to say I was their second choice.  Finally, I asked someone what they thought my problem was and they said it was that I never 100% seemed interested in the job I was interviewing for.  So in trying not to look desperate for a job (since it took me almost 3 years to find one), I came off like I didn’t care about the job.

As a result, I always make sure to ask at the end of the interview: “What concerns do you have for me being able to excel at this job?”  It shows them that I am interested and it gives me a chance to address any final concerns they might have about hiring me.

Post # 8
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I know it’s frustrating!  Take advantage of those interviews though, and seize the opportunity to improve your interviewing skills.  Think about how you respond to questions that stump you.  How can you improve those answers?  Ask friends the same questions and see how they’d respond.  Are you talking yourself up as much as you can?  An interview is the time to sell yourself.  We’re all taught to be modest and not brag on ourselves.  This one time, throw all that out the window.  The idea is to have them walking out of the interview thinking “wow, I’d be crazy not to hire her!”

Before you do all that though, get a glass of wine, your favorite movie and allow yourself to have a night to let it go.  Then in the morning, you can look at this with a fresh mind.

Post # 11
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’ve had this happen several times recently. The most recent was a job that I was completely qualified for (although my mom says that I may have been over qualified and they were afraid it was a temp job for me). I was upset b/c it is an organization affiliated with one I volunteer at (and I’ve been there for 7 years). I didn’t even get an interview. I applied for a job at the place I volunteer, and I was in the top 3. I didn’t feel too bad about not getting it b/c the candidate that they went with had significantly more experience with this particular job. I won’t lie, sometimes i get realy down about it but i keep going. I genuinely think that I will find the perfect job. I do little things that make me happy and feel good – paint my nails, buy something cheap, etc.

Post # 12
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@tropicalfish914:  What companies sometimes forget though is that overqualified people will be actively searching for a better job whereas a candidate who is at that level will be happy to stay there for awhile. It can be very frustrating.

And sure, PM me 🙂 I’d be happy to help. I teach a lot of resume/interviewing courses.

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