Post # 1
We booked our date with our venue and have pretty much everything set, sort of. This venue is in a forested area by a river and has multiple lodges and buildings over the span of the property. Our original plan was to have our ceremony by the river (the furthest point from the main building & kitchens), and there’s a beautiful glass pavillion next to it that we were going to have our reception in since our wedding is small (30 people). This pavillion is so beautiful bees and exactly what I wanted!
However, getting the numbers back, this pavillion is $1000 over budget. Yikes. So we looked at having it in another area of the property, their main dining area that seats 30 as well. It’s cute, kind of just looks like an old style dining room, and there’s huge decks outside and a sunroom for guests which is nice (they can enjoy appetizers and socializing there). It saves us the $1000, but it’s just not the same.
I’m feeling a bit heartbroken since the pavillion was so much more expensive, but exactly what I dreamed of!
Bees, when you were planning your wedding did you run into these kinds of situations where you just felt disappointed that your day wouldn’t look the same? And in the end was it worth it to save the money? Would love to hear your thoughts as I’m sure I could just be over reacting.
Post # 2
Are there other areas you can cut the budget? We splurged on our venue and it was 100% worth it. We skipped flowers for the reception, didn’t do a lot of extra decor (to save money but also the venue didn’t need it), and got a fantastic deal on our photographer. I know I’m not giving you the answer you want but the venue was a big deal for us and spending the extra money was absolutely worth it.
Post # 3
hikingbride : That is really great to know and I’m so glad it was worth it!! I feel like the pavillion will require less decorating than the new place, so some savings there. I just felt like an extra $1000 is a lot extra for just 30 people but as the night is going on I’m wondering if it’s worth it. I’m so glad to hear it was worth it for you though, that gives me hope lol!
Post # 4
I’m in this same situation now! Leaning towards splurging… 😛
Post # 5
I am in the same situation. We can go for the function room at our resort for a 1k booking fee or we can go with the gorgeous stone walled restaraunt with woolden flooring which is 2.5k more…
Half of me thinks, its just one day and its the photos between the ceremony and the reception I will treasure most so it isnt worth it. And the other half of me is like, you only get married once and its what you envisioned so splurge…
Post # 6
First of all, how important is the venue to you? If you put things in order of preference, does it make the top 3 or top 5? If the answer is yes, then it’s probably something you want to splurge on.
So the next question is, how far over budget are you willing/able to go? If you are only willing to go say 500 over or not at all, then start looking at where you can cut costs from things that were less important.
The only people who’d opinions matter about this are you and your Fi, and anyone helping to foot the bill. Given that it is also on the same site, consider whether you would be looking at it longingly on the day if you don’t go for it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
$1000 over budget isn’t crazy terrible. Unless thats the difference between living on ramen for a couple months after your wedding and having real dinners. Did you leave wiggle room in the budget at all? Thats helpful for me. Its like I have a budget but then extras toward the max budget for *what ifs*. I’d also cut flowers as pp suggested. They are expensive for no reason and die quickly. I got enough centerpiece flowers for 10 tables from a wholesale site for $123 but honestly could have done without any.
Post # 8
That’s what we did! We splurged after finding our dream venue! We did, however, have to cut back big time on expenses for awhile, but it was so worth it.
Post # 9
I splurged for a nice venue where the venue was the decoration. I have no skill or patience for decorating or flowers, so I think I’ll save some money on that end.
Post # 10
Honestly, if I were to splurge anywhere it would be venue. So much else depends on what the venue looks like.
Post # 11
Another Bee suggested to see if the budget allows to be altered elswhere. I’m not married so I can’t give advice from personal experience but I do wedding floristry and the brides that find us are quite budget savvy. They would forgo the less important things and really put money into things that would help make the day special. In the end they forgot the little things like larger arrangements, minimal decorations on tables and no buttonholes. It’s all about preference. I hope you ultimately get everything you both want.
Post # 12
cosima : This was my thought exactly! Like, it is only one day… but it is our big day and we only get one!
So with that said… we decided to splurge and go for it! We’re cutting costs on flowers (as pp’s have mentioned), decor, and not having a dj. We are super excited! 😀
Post # 13
Yay! These financial decisions are hard when such emphasis is placed on it being the big day but you’ve comprimised and you’re excitement is enough that you’ve made the right choice!
Post # 14
I went about 30k over budget (probably more but I stopped counting!) and quite frankly I don’t regret a thing! The whole day was perfect and I will absolutely cherish the memories of every single detail. As long as you can still afford your bills, splurge without guilt 😜
Post # 15
Well it depends on ur financial situation. If it is not going to set u back in ur other commitments, why not! $1000 more for venu is not bad, and u can cut it off elsewhere, may be decor, centerpiece , favor etc or may be something else other than wedding too.