- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
Fiance and I are under a lot of financial stress right now and it is really getting me down.
When Fiance moved to my town in the spring, he got his dream job, but it meant a pay cut. We got engaged and moved in together around this time. I had been living at home, so to make this work, we had to sell my car (kept his truck). About a month ago, Fiance got laid off until April. We knew this was a possibility when he took the job, but thought it would be a 2-3 month layoff after Christmas, not this early/long.
When he was working regular hours, I didn’t mind not having my own vehicle. I can walk to work and had the truck in the evenings. Now, Fiance is working irregular hours at whatever odd jobs he can get and I feel so trapped. I can’t go to the gym, shopping, errands, etc… after years of having my own car and independence, it is really hard. (I am in a smaller town with no real public transit options.)
Also, due to the unexpected lay-off, I had to get a plain wedding band that I don’t really like and doesn’t really go with my ring, but it was all we can afford. We had to cancel our honeymoon and a bunch of the “extras” that my parents aren’t paying for with the wedding.
I know that in the grand scheme of things, we are OK. We have a roof over our head, food in our belly, I have a decent job and in the end, we will be married.
But, I can’t help but feel disappointed and down. When we got engaged everything was so awesome and we had all these plans and ideas. With the wedding approaching, I just feel so deflated and stressed, not how I imagined at all.
I don’t even really know what I am looking for, maybe just virtual hugs and a pat on the head (lol), but it feels good to get it out. I don’t really have any friends I can turn to about this, so it helps.