(Closed) feeling a little down and major vent…

posted 9 years ago in Military
Post # 3
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) I have no experiences with this, but I’m definitely hear if you need a shoulder or want a virtual buddy to help!!  Thanks for what you and your fiancee are doing for our country btw. 

Post # 4
1205 posts
Bumble bee

First of all  (((((((HUGS))))))) .  Take a deep breath.  It will work out, it will be ok, and you will get it all done.

I feel overwhelmed a lot – and not so much right now about deadlines because we still have a while to go, but I work full time, have 2 children (and the 1st day of school is Monday) and since most everything in our wedding is DIY, there are things I actually need to get moving on because we need the time to make it work.  Mostly the $$$ part overwhelms me, sometimes I feel like I’m running on a treadmill instead of making progress.  It helps me to step back and take 30 minutes to myself.  I make a list…  of everything – every little thought that pops into my head.  After I look at that, I can get the list in order of priority pretty easliy.  If your mom is willing to help, ask her what she would prefer to do.  Giving her a choice of tasks is considerate and she will appreciate it.  Work in order and take it one day at a time. 


Best of luck,

Post # 5
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It sounds cliche but one day at a time and ask for help! ๐Ÿ˜‰ hang in there it DOES get easier.

Post # 6
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

((HUGS)) My brother and my sister in law went though a simular situation. When my brother proposed to my sister in law he was just enlisted they had a wonderful wedding planned for May of 2007, then he was called to duty and they decided to have a private ceremony of just family before he left and then throw a big reception when he got back. I know it’s not the wedding of thier dreams but it made them happy. She was still able to wear her white dress and they were both able to go on their honeymoon to Las Vegas, but it was a year after. She coped through it all by continuing her education and getting her RN, she had a big support group with me and my family and her fellow nurse friends. They have been married now for 2 years this Thanksgiving.


Post # 7
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Awww HUGS, that sounds really rough ๐Ÿ™  You’ll manage though – just take it one step at a time and remember to breathe!

Post # 9
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

hugs! Although my Fiance is not in the military, I had two serious relationships in the past with guys in the military and I know it can be so hard! I think it’s great that you planned a girl’s night! Enjoy that, and perhaps some of those girls would be happy to help with the wedding planning! When some of my friends have gotten married and I wasn’t in the bridal party I was always happy to help with anything!

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